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To my knowledge nobody grows up aspiring to be an addict or an alcoholic. Through my personal research and experience, I have come to believe that everyone has the potential to become addicted to something. After all isn’t an addiction really a strong habit you have trouble controlling or giving up?
Consider this, if addiction could speak, what would it say? The Enchantress I am the Enchantress. I will not discriminate. I will love you no matter your race or background, young or old, man or woman. I hold everyone near and dear to me. I can get under your skin and I can get into your head. I will entangle you in my web of lies. I can make you lie. I can make you steal. I can make you poor. I can take away your friends, your family, your job and even your home. I can make your spouse and your children hate you, and yes, I have the power to destroy your health and take your life. I am ADDICTION. Well now that one knows a little on how she operates, how do we go to battle with her? How do we fight for the person we love? This is not an easy question to answer. We must first look to ourselves and learn the difference between enabling and helping. We must put away our codependent behavior and help our addicted loved ones learn to be accountable for their choices. This may prove to be one of the hardest things we have made ourselves do. Nobody wants to see the one they love suffer and in some cases poison themselves. You may ask yourself how can I learn to do this, where are the tools? Al Anon/ nar anon/ alateen & or codependency meetings are a great place to start. Here you find support, you find you are not alone in your suffering. You find people who have been through the same situations you are going through. You learn to ask yourself how much am I willing to take? When you find that point, you set boundaries so that point is not reached, and come up with consequences for when those boundaries are crossed. For example, after finding her husband passed out on the couch, and her baby crying when she returned home, a woman hired a nanny to care for both of them, instead of paying the nanny, she gave the nanny a discounted amount off room rent. The nanny was instructed the husband was not to drink in the house, and if he returned from somewhere after drinking, the nanny was instructed not to let him in and to direct the husband to sleep it off in the garage with the dogs. If the husband refused, the nanny was instructed to call law enforcement and have the husband taken away. (Terrific examples of Boundaries, Choices, & Consequences.) Eventually we learn that we love the person, but hate the addiction and what they change the person into. Please keep in mind, the further along they progress in the addiction, the more selfish and needy they become. The best advice I can give to anyone in love with addict or an alcoholic is ask yourself, if they do not quit their habit, if their addiction gets worse, will you be able to stay in the relationship? An addict will not put down the shovel (quit the addiction) until they hit rock bottom, admit the addiction or have decided enough is enough.The reality is sometimes it is never enough and rock bottom becomes 6 feet under. I wish you all luck in your personal journeys. BLESSINGS This piece was written by guest blogger Tami D.
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Energy Report from April 7th to April 17th
As many of you already know the moon’s energy can have a great effect on us humans, This April’s new moon is being referred to as a super new moon so what will that mean for you? This new moon falls on the sign of Aries, and the emphasis is on new beginnings, and discovering if we are on the right path in life, it will give us the motivation to clear up any issues that have been holding us back, so there is much for us to be doing, most importantly clearing away the negative energy. The energy of this New Moon is really going to be our last opportunity to get things sorted for some time so it is very important that you do not waste this energy under any circumstances, we will not have another super moon like this until November. We also need to use up this energy before Mars goes into retrograde once again as once this happens we will lose all motivation to do so. We have 11 days to work on this. I am being shown right now the main issues are more frustration, doubt and all around confusion, most commonly how you feel you have taken one step forward and two steps back, with impatience being the name of the game. Many are experiencing a state of limbo, some have even gone so far as to say they are scared, it seems like a battle with no end in sight. So what can we do to help this?? Time for action Now is the time to combat these feelings…
To really utilize the energy of this Super New Moon, you will need to make a list of what needs to be done, the above it a great guide for you to use. Remember to focus on you and what needs to be progressed in your life. You must remember that all of this begins with you, you are the master of your own destiny, I urge you to take action today. There is no time to delay Love Right about now is also a time to take a breather from all the chaos that is your love life, relax and know that the planets are aligning for you, so work on self is very important, make a list of all those things you have really wanted to do for yourself and work through it, it is also a time to show yourself some unconditional love. After Mars comes into retrograde it will be harder to get these things done. So now is the perfect time. Twin Flames For us twin flames it can be higher as we are more sensitive people, so take note of the following and use it as your guide for the next 11 days: The closer you are to union with twin, the less you will feel any problems will get in your way, while the moon is helping with this please note do not stop working on your goals for you and twin, it is not a time to become complacent. This will help you with those feelings of being in a limbo like state. During this time twin flames can also release past hurts, be that past life or just in the past of this life where your twin may have hurt you. It is time to work on letting this go and start over hence this moon being about new beginnings. Work through these hurts, and let them go so you can begin a new cycle with twin instead of holding on to the old one and repeat the same mistakes over and over! Those of you who have newly been introduced to twin flame life it is a great time for you to accelerate to the next phase as you have been given the chance to work through past life hurts early on in your journey. Contact me for a past life reading to help you with this. A warning for you is to be more careful of what you say to your twin over these 11 days as it may be taken the wrong way and cause future problems that you do not wish to have, so think before you speak!! This super new moon will also help us to bring more positive things for ourselves and our twins in the future, so plant those new seeds and leave your doubt behind. Have more faith in yourself and your journey and know that you are on the right path. LASTLY In conclusion, this new moon has many aspects to it and there is a lot to remember and take in, so use this energy very wisely. It is a time to put your aspirations into progress and release is most important. Patience is a virtue have it if you can, seldom in a woman never in a man! We have to strive to change this quotation!! I can help you with all the above, email me, DM me, or send me a message on Facebook I am here to help you with this. © Carol Mary 2016 When Things go wrong, as they sometimes will,
When the road you're trudging seems all uphill, When the funds are low and debts are high, And you want to Smile but have to sigh. When care is pressing you down a bit, Rest, if you must, but don't you quit. Life is queer with its twists and turns, As everyone of us sometimes learns, And many a failure turns about, When he might have won if he'd stuck it out, Don't give up though the pace seems slow, You might succeed with another blow. Often the struggler has given up, When he might captured the victor's cup. And he learned too late, when the night slipped down, How close he was to the golden crown, Success is failure turned inside out, The silver tint of clouds of doubt, And you never can tell how close you are, It may be near when it seems afar, So stick to the fight when you're hardest hit, It's when things seem worst that you mustn't quit.
Welcome to the new monthly twin flames love and energy report. There is so much going on in the year 2016 and it will take forever to catch you up with all that is meant for this year. The premise of this report will be monthly updates of energy influxes and weekly reports as to what to watch out for and how to shift and transition your energies so your twin flame experience is more positive, leading you to union with your twin. Much of this I had to learn myself and if you didn’t know I’m already in union with my twin. It took some time and a lot of ups and downs but if I got through it so can you. Just a word first before I continue. If some of this does not resonate with you then that is fine. If you find you feel weird about some of the stuff you see here and it doesn’t fit your journey that is ok as well. Just ask the universe to remove that energy from you as it is not one that is meant for you. So what’s up for the month of April you may ask? Mars will be going retrograde, Saturn brings us face to face with karmic/karma issues and our responsibility to our twin flame and the feminine energies is relieved of old burdens they are carrying. Very much a significant time as Saturn is retrograde causing us to come face to face with karmic burdens connected to our twin, usually past life matters surfacing in this life. This can be via authority figures, past romantic relationships and also this will surface between the two of you even if you are not in communication right now. Lessons to be learned, purged and moved through. This is about a process of releasing that which is standing in the way of your union. To clear it once and for all. Find the appropriate tools to help you clear this junk and debris and release it so you can move into positive connection with your twin. For those in the sign of Aries this month you get an energy makeover! This also applies to the prominent “masculine” energy (I don’t mean just male twins flames, for as we know, twin flames can be same sex couples, so who ever is the masculine energy in the relationship or has that as their dominant energy will be the ones going through an “energy makeover”) The Aries energy is full of zest, vigor and because of the soon to come change into Taurus (Venus energy) be aware of the shadow side of Aries energy - domineering, impatience and aggression. Be aware of others and practice diplomacy right now with them. This won’t be easy but you’ll have to make specific effort to do so. Please refer to my blog on the energy report from March 28th to April 7th on that matter and it will explain a bit more about what is going on. https://www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/posts/995682403845197 You are being asked to seek your true motivations in this journey and be honest with yourself. There is a possibility of feeling vulnerable and having a lot of negative emotions come up and this is actually good but it’s giving you a chance to change things. Stop dwelling on the past, stop dwelling in the negative, release, purge, grow change and move forward. This year will be a year of union for many twin flames and it will happen for those who do the work and release the pain, release the negativity and move into that love beyond love, that love that defies explanation. The unconditional love that NO MATTER WHAT under any circumstances ALL THERE IS and ALL THAT MATTERS is the love you and your twin share. No not speaking of human conditional love… see my blog on Unconditional Love Explained. https://www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/posts/990584457688325 and also What Is Love? https://www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/posts/986628558083915 In this month with all this energy flowing you’re being asked to hit the ‘reset’ button. So get rid of what doesn’t serve your twin flame union and move into that which connects you at your very souls! Time to leave the past behind, purge your karma and release all that doesn’t serve you and your twin. This being said heading towards mid-month in April the masculine will need more love and understanding and support from you, the feminine energy. Be willing to come together and forgive all past transgressions, just let that crap go and move on! Start fresh and move into the love bond you are here to have NOW and into the future! As we move into the later part of the month Mars goes retrograde and this is happening through the signs of Scorpio and Sagittarius. Purging old sexual baggage, old sexual karma held by the twin flame collective, the aggressive power of this is needing to be let go of once and for all. So twins can just be in their union without the power struggles, the b.s. getting in the way if you will and just be together. You masculine twins (or masculine energies) are going to feel a need to release a lot of old baggage and this is dealing with the solar plexus charka - the energy center about self worth, self confidence, self esteem and that “I AM WORTHY!” You may feel the need to release so much of that which is holding you back remember that it will require the other twin to be supportive and absolutely unconditionally loving. To support you through the changes you’re going to be going through over the next weeks basically pretty much until the end of June. You feminine twins (feminine energies) will also be going through the need to release emotional attachments to past lovers, to negative people, to those who no longer support you in any way, whether that is on this journey or in life. This isn’t easy but it must be done in order to form new and stronger bonds with your twin flame. We are always in constant upgrade mode, my purpose here is to make you aware of it and help you through it. Cut cords to those old energy attachments, do emotional releases, chakra clearings whatever it takes. Learn to become less and less influenced by outside influences of others on the journey and focus on your specific journey with your twin. Share the good stuff, but work on your own negative, and focus on the positive changes, shift, change and evolve your union. As we go through mid April and through until September, Pluto also goes retrograde. This means sexuality between twins is up for a detox! Old issues may come up and this means it’s time to stop shoving it under the rug and deal with it. Childhood stuff could come up for you or for your twin and you may sense this. This month is really about discovering what and why you’re connected to your twin and what the real reason is you’re going through this journey and what it means to you. Yes you’re meant to be with them but what is it that is driving you to push for union with them. Is it that love beyond love? or is it something else that is driving it? A lower emotion of weak and being needy or feeling you’ll be alone or what is it? There will be signs of it showing up in your world trust me. There may be tests of loyalty if you try to push away your twin thinking it isn’t good for you and the universe will be showing you otherwise. The full moon is in the house of the sign of Scorpio on April 22nd, bringing a lot of tension to the forefront in your twin flame connection. Especially around the issues of sexuality, dominance, and power struggles. Just take a breather at this time. Sea salt detoxing baths and showers are helpful now as well as any creative outlet for these heavy energies - art, music, poetry, whatever makes you feel creative. Do it.. shift the energy. With the full moon the energy also moves into the sun sign of Taurus, the 22nd as well, a very grounding energy. As we leave Aries behind and the Mars domineering albeit zestful energy, we move into Venus energy April 30th. We are going to focus on the positive loving energies of Venus - this is the time to be not so tied up in the emotional grounding and releasing now. You’ve done a lot of work, let’s focus on you and your twin and the love. Even in 5D spend time with them, cuddle, talk, dream together. Just relax and recharge. More on that in May. Until we meet again - stay tuned another weekly report is due soon. Much love and blessings… xx by Ms. Kimberley Jackshaw |
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