The unbiased truth about the sleeper Twin Flame

What or who is the sleeper twin flame?

More commonly known in Twin Flame circles as the runner Twin Flame ~ By definition a runner is a person who runs, especially in a specified way.  (google dictionary) In the case of twin flames, it is the one who runs away from the relationship, the one who does not want to deal with the obstacles that are in the way. Obstacles can be defined as issues such as trust, unconditional love, faith in the relationship and spiritual matters.

Once you connect with your twin you may feel an intensity like no other, you will want to spend as much time with this person, part of you will not be able to understand the reasoning behind why you feel this way at first. You may feel instant love, a need to be there for them always and an obsession with how they are doing or where they are at any given time.  It is something that you can not explain to friends and family.  You will keep much of this emotion inside of you. This emotion can build up and make you feel awful.  At times you may even believe that you are crazy to feel or think this way.  

So which one of you will be the sleeper?

The simple answer is the one who can not deal with the intensity.  The runner twin is typically the male.  I have come across some females but they are few and far between. Sleeper twins can be very stubborn and set in their ways.  

The main symptoms of a sleeper - is this you?

• Shows fear mostly that you will hurt them, or you will leave them
• Anxiety when it comes to dealing with issues that arise between you
• Very little understanding of the relationship or why they feel this way
• Feels the immense love but is scared of it
• A connection so strong that it is beyond their belief
• Mostly can not believe that someone can possibly love them so much
• Feel undeserving of the love
• Low self esteem

What happens when your twin runs?

Many will run because of the symptoms described above, the leader needs to know that it is not because of them or that they have no feelings for each other.  I find typically the sleeper will go out in search of another so that they know for sure that they have found “the one.” I have explained all of this in my blog called the searching phase.  During this period of separation, the sleeper twin may meet their karmic relationship this is so that they can learn lessons to prepare for the ultimate union. This can be very hurtful to you but you have to keep in mind that they are in preparation for being with you. The sleeper twin will miss you and they will feel your love but still rejects the connection this is owing to the fact their are living in fear. Many will have had a very destructive past, perhaps being emotionally abused, a victim of bullying or have mostly had loved ones leave their lives without explanation. There may also be past life issues calling things to a halt. These are all issues that will have to be worked through before union can happen.

So how will the sleeper do this if they do not accept the relationship?

That is where you come in as the leader, firstly the reasons why the sleeper has left you will have to be discovered you can do this by having a reading or a consultation with myself. I have many tools that will help you to work out the right way forward for you and this ultimate love.  Of course every case is different so here are some tips that will help you deal with things.  

• Reassurance: always reassure your twin that you love them, you will not leave and you will do your best to be there for them no matter what.
• Friendship: offer the hand of friendship without asking anything in return
• Be there for your runner when he/she needs you (believe they will many times)
• Work on self
• Remember you mirror your twin, so your issues are mostly theirs, acceptance of this is a must.
• Work on the issues that are holding you back therefore you will help twin
• Fears that you will have, twin is most likely to have also
• Try to have faith
• Know that even though your twin is not with you it does not mean they are not thinking of you or missing you
• Giving up is really not an option, (please do not mistake this with surrender)

At all times when dealing with the sleeper you have to remember that you are the stronger twin, you were chosen for this journey because you are strong. Only the strong will get to reunion.  


Some of the crazy things that the sleeper will do!

• Pretend their phone is not working
• Claim they have changed their phone number
• Block you on social media
• Try to avoid you if they see you in public
• Say goodbye like they are going to leave you for good and then show up again the same day
• Get mad if you agree with their want to leave you or if you tell them to go
• Use dating websites
• Do mean things to try and get you to leave them
• Use hurtful words against you
• Pretend they have many options when it comes to dating
• Hide if you call over to their home
• Blow hot and cold with their feelings, telling you how much they love you one minute and pretending you do not exist the next
• Disappear for months without contact

So how do you keep your sanity while dealing with this?

I always advise that you work on yourself, find the time to write down your issues whether that is in the past or present. Knowledge is key, find out everything you can about what is going on. Why you are being treated like this. The more information you have the better.  Occupy your mind, take up a hobby, go dancing, watch good movies and go out and have fun with your friends. Do not sit at home waiting for him to come to you.  The sleeper twin is most likely to come back when you are busiest, happiest or you have found your soulmate.  Yes Murphy’s law right!! Make no error your sleeper will turn you whole life upside down and throw up emotions you thought you had suppressed or did not know existed in your world. So work them out, resolve things so that there are less obstacles in your way. No you are not losing it. What you feel is real. Also know that many will say that it is an obsession, that you are a stalker, none of this is true and of course if they knew what the twin flame journey was about this would never enter their heads. Only those who are ignorant to this would make such comments. Knowledge is everything.  What you are feeling is a soul connection, the divine and ultimate love.

                         This is for sure not a journey for the faint hearted.  

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email. direct message or Facebook inbox.

© Carol Mary 2016

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