Reality Check Twin Flames
Yes it really has been a while since I wrote a monthly blog, I am sure I could come up with a million reasons why that is the case, a thousand excuses, a hundred justifications but of course I will not bore you with all that. Life is always full of reasons, excuses and justifications but at the end of the day who will really remember all of that.
So let’s begin with a story, this is about a lady who does her very best to help out everyone she meets in life, she works hard to try and keep everyone that crosses her path happy and she very rarely deviates from this path. She has a secret however, one that she holds in the forefront of her mind, she is deeply hurt by the nature of many humans today, she does not understand why they are not grateful for her help, why do they complain and whine when things do not go their way?
What kind of world do we live in today, where people do not thank another for a kind act, where people are never happy and always looking at the negative side of things. When did people become so miserable that they can not see the lighter side of life. When was the last time you took a long hard look at yourself and realized that you were happy and grateful in life.
Are you entitled?
Entitlement, let’s talk about that for a moment, I am sure that most people who read this blog, will have a teenager or will know a teenager, what has happened to the kids of today? Are we really bringing our kids up this way, are we really allowing them to act like spoilt brats. When was the last time you saw your child without their head stuck in their phone? When was the last time you had a meaningful conversation with them? If you think about it, it has probably been awhile because they are more interested in snapchat and tik tok and the latest piece of drama to notice that they should be grateful to you for the home you provide them with. I was having a chat with a friend of mine last night and they told me that when they asked their daughter what she was thankful for on Thanksgiving, she said her phone and her friends. I do not remember a day go by when I have not been thankful for my parents and everything that they have done for me and continue to do!
I watched with horror in a restaurant on a night out recently, there was a couple, a man and a woman. I would say that both of them were in their 50’s. They were arguing over something trivial I assume. I did not want to hear their conversation and I am sure that no one in the restaurant did either but the male jumped up and he said and I quote “ Do you want me to punch you in the face like I used to” He proceeded to throw his napkin in her face and then charged out of the restaurant. How many people do you think got up and asked that lady if she was ok, no one. Is this the kind of society you want to live in?
Homelessness, it is in every country, in every city, in every town, we mostly fob it off these days, that person is a druggie, that is why they are on the streets, they are a no good for nothing, probably ended up on the streets because they did not want to make a success of their lives. There are children living on our streets, their are children being trafficked, there is a lot going on in our world that really is not wonderful, but why do we turn a blind eye these days? Simply because it is easier to!!
Doubt, the Root of Evil on the Twin Flame journey.
Doubts, we all have doubts about all manner of things that are going on in our lives. However I see the knock on effect of this when it comes to Twin Flames. It only takes one to tear down a wall that took ages to build, it only takes one to set the other off, then that person will bring another down with them. Whether this is doubt in yourself, your journey or the person who is helping you on your journey!
Am I smart enough? Am I good enough? Will I make it? Do I really deserve union? How long until someone realizes that I am a fraud and I should not be on this journey? How long until someone see’s that I am not strong enough to make it to union?
Truth of the matter is you do not need to be good enough, you do not need to be smart enough, you do not need to deserve union. You just need to be present on your journey, so what I mean by that is, this is your journey, YOURS and yours alone, what anyone else is doing or feeling, should not affect you, so that you are questioning everything that is going on around you and I can guarantee you that while you are doing that, you are missing a golden opportunity on your road to reunion.
Do not make your doubts, the doubts of every other Twin Flame around you!! Stop, think then act.
So I am sure you are wondering why I mentioned entitlement, it is simply because you are not entitled to union, you need for work for that, it is not going to just land in your lap because it was written on your soul a long time ago. It does not work like that, so today is the day you get up off your butt and work for the union that you want so badly!!
Now I know you want to know why I spoke about the lady in the restaurant and homelessness, it is because we are Twin Flames, we are here on this earth to make a difference but that difference can not be made until you start to do things to make that change. So the next time you see a homeless person, do not be afraid to ask them their story, you may be very surprised by what you find out, the next time you see that lady in the restaurant, ask her if she needs help or just if she is ok, you never know the difference you can really make.
Always, Always, try and put yourself in the shoes of other people before you make any judgement, in fact, do not make one, instead come to a place of understanding for that is the Twin Flame way.
What’s Happening This Month
December, will it be packed with romance for you Twin Flames or will it be a hot mess? You decide because in truth you are the one in charge of your journey, the master of your own destiny as the leader Twin Flame. Wow, did I actually say that you can be the one to decide how things go in your life? Well damn, yes I did. The day you start to look at your journey in a different way will be the first day, the first step closer to your union. The day you realize that while others can help you with this, they can not get you the whole way, you need to work for it too.
It is time for you to discover that pep in your step that you had in the beginning of your journey. Do you remember that one, where you were excited, where you had hope? Yes, if so, grab that feeling again! It’s time.
Before we begin 2020, I want you to realize you are an unlimited being in this world and that you are the one in control of how your life goes. This energy is directive, and also full of determination and forward thinking. It is also about looking after you and no I do not mean in a selfish way, or vain/arrogant, but knowing you have meaning and purpose and doing those things that make you feel connected to yourself, feel balanced and therefore are able to then direct that energy towards projects and others.
Now having said all of that I want you to watch out for your ego, you know that big bad thing that often stands in your way of learning that all important lesson.
You may feel the need to speak out and let others know your feelings with either concern or lack of concern depending on the situation. Please use your head first! Think before you respond instead of reacting to everything and everyone!
Be careful to not procrastinate or wallow in pity or drag your heels in the areas of your life where you need to move forward. You also need spiritual and mental AND emotional intelligence to keep you balanced.
The new moon, is about creating new intentions and acting on them and following through on them in whatever way you’re directed. Whether that is physical synchronicities, spiritual messages, guidance and help from others in your life and so forth. Do not disregard ANY guidance you get, no matter how small the step may seem you do not know where it could lead. Remain open and willing! No resistance!
This is also a time to listen and not speak - remember we have 2 ears and only 1 mouth.. By the way that means spiritually as well as in your physical environment. Speak less, listen more, look for the meaning behind others words and ask for clarification if you do not understand, do not presume the worst, be sure you listen to get the clear message.
It also means if within your spiritual practice you pray it would mean since prayer is speaking to the Divine, and meditation is listening - both to your higher self (which is the Divine within you) and it means listen to the messages you receive, stop asking for things to happen because maybe the answer is already there and you just don’t OR won’t see it. Allow and open. pause then process.. Don’t just jump in, step back, think before taking action and if you don’t know the action then you most likely aren’t looking in the right places. That is when you ask for guidance and if you truly know yourself, as in your higher self you’ll be guided honestly and truthfully to where you need to be.
The moon phase dates are as follows
December 4th is the First Quarter which as we know means it is time to move forward with your plans you’re intending no matter how small.
Full Moon on December 12th more will come to light as to where you need to be, what you need to do and what you leave behind or go off in another direction.
December 19th is the Last/Third Quarter phase, time for quiet reflection and perhaps re-organizing our goals and resetting our directions and to think about perhaps trying a new direction so that when the new year energy arrives you know which way you are going.
December 26th New Moon comes around we know where we’re going and a better idea on how to get there. Revise your plans and look at where you need to focus, don’t be scattered, focus on one area of your life at a time once one is in place, maintain the momentum and whatever else syncs up with that go there.
A Note From Carol Mary
Remember the importance of trusting in yourself and your gut instinct this month because you will never know where it will lead you to. Do not trust and you might just miss another wonderful opportunity to take a chance, to make that change so you can eventually reunite, because let's face it, who does not want to be with their Twin Flame here in the physical, but you have to do it without the aire of codependency or desperation but that is of course a topic for another day.
I would like to take this opportunity to thank those of you who read this blog, to let you know that your feedback is always appreciated and that I would love to hear from you if you are struggling.
I hope that those of you who celebrate, have a wonderful season and that you find some happiness in everyday of December.
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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.
“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary
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