Many will say that people who act how twin flames do have no self respect, while I do believe that it is not the case, I still felt this necessary to look at, it will be helpful to those of you who feel that they do too much for their twin flame or they are the one who always asks them to go places and they feel as though their twin flame does not care because they have to do all the hard work in regards to lessons also. So how do you find a happy medium, how do you lead but not sacrifice your self respect in the process?
I found on my journey that I had to learn to respect myself before I could fully respect anyone else, in order for me to do this I had to actively decide that I was going to do certain things in order to show myself and the universe that I could focus on union while still having respect.
This is what I recommend:
Stop people pleasing, it is ok to say no you do not have to do everything you are asked to do just because you are afraid of causing rifts in friendships and or relationships.
This one I know some struggle with and that is having a negative view of yourself, so be mindful of how you think and talk about yourself to others. Do not put yourself down ever.
Do not stay in the one place for a long time, keep moving forward, working, becoming a better you, staying stagnant or procrastinating has never got anyone I know to union.
Just like people pleasing, do not try and fit into others ideals of how you should be. Be yourself!!
Many twin flames are in jobs that they do not like or it bores them, this is perhaps because you feel there is more out there for you, if that is the case, do not stay in a job that is not right for you. You may even wish to further your education.
It is very important to take care of your health, I will be discussing this in more detail in next week’s blog.
If you are dealing with an over controlling karmic relationship or just someone in your life who likes to control what you do, it is time to think about how to move on from this person or people.
This is something I come across everyday, the why do I have to do the work, the one who sits and waits for things to happen, well that in my opinion is just plain lazy, why wait when you can do so much to move forward, is this not the logical option to get you to union so you do not have to waste a minute with your twin flame.
This is my favorite one of all and that is to choose happiness.
Think back to your earliest memory, did you ever think or feel different to others around you, were you more sensitive or did you just plain feel like you were on a different life path to most people that you knew? I did, as I got older this became more apparent. I started to have an interest in the opposite sex but no matter who I met or dated they just did not seem right for me. My mother used to joke that the man I was looking for had not been invented yet, I used to tell her that he has been I just have not found him yet. I think many of us have felt this way, then you began thinking that you needed to be the best you could be in order to find your one! You knew you had a purpose to be here and even if you didn’t you knew that there were reasons to work on yourself so that things in your world improved.
Then your twin flame shows up and you finally have that feeling that you are home, you have finally found the one for you! . Whether you realize this or not, when both of you showed up in each other’s lives that was the reason. It was so that both of you strived towards being your best version of you in that moment. It is an ever continuing process of growth, change and transformation. So you go through many different what others like to refer to as phases, I do not really look at things that way, you will have the blame game, separation, coming together again, separation if all lessons are not learnt, testing then if all is learnt, union! Where are you at? Do not know, please email me to find out more!
Now do not be fooled into thinking that once you are in union, it is going to be great, many do this and then they discover the hard way that it is not. It is an ever changing relationship, ever growing and you will of course come across stumbling blocks but you will have more clarity on how to deal with this once in union. I know for sure I have had some doozies this past year!
So listed here below are some things for you to consider, as most of you are currently in separation.
What lessons must I learn?
Do I love myself?
Do I love my twin flame without condition?
Do I trust in my twin flame?
Consider these this next week and try to figure out where you are at on your road to reunion.
Moon Phase Moments - For October 27th, 2017
On this date, the moon will be in it’s 1st quarter phase (waxing) and is in the sign of Aquarius. During a 1st quarter moon, as it is waxing, this is a positive, moving forward time. Though like the third quarter phase it brings about a feeling of impending crisis, but it is a decision point to take action on something or to move onto a different path to get there. A “crossroads” if you will, the “what if I do this or what if I don’t do this” is the decision. I am sure you can all have a thought on something before you that may feel like you’re currently being pushed to make a choice. No matter how small an action you may see the opportunity to do so.
As this phase happens to be in the sign of Aquarius - that means independence or detachment. Detachment isn’t negative that isn’t what this means. Simply put the universe is asking you to work on things but not to worry or overthink about what the outcome would be.
As far as independence, look at how you can be more helpful to yourself instead of thinking you have to constantly get help from others from things you know you can actually handle yourself if you think about it and maybe make the choices to educate yourself on what to do in that situation. Do not forget to work on your self respect.
With the Moon in Aquarius this is about seeking new opportunities and finding ways to be different from others instead of constantly following the flock. In other words - BE AN INDIVIDUAL wherever possible. Following the flock will not truthfully get you to union as each relationship is totally different, you need someone who can tailor a twin flame package to your actual relationship, not just what everyone else is doing.
This week it is time to set your plan for November into action, what do you want to achieve?
“A year from now you may wish you had started today.” ― Karen Lamb
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This week, the first ever serious storm hit Ireland, it caused a lot of devastation and 3 lives were lost, I know this might not seem like a lot to some but Ireland is a small country with a pretty small population. I learnt the value of pulling together, that no matter what the Irish face we keep our sense of humour, I also saw the good in human nature and the bad. As Twin Flame leaders we are called upon to be there for other twin flames in times of need, I saw much of this and I have had great support from many of my Twin Flame friends however I did see something that really angered me, I do not get angry often, it also allowed me to see why some are not in union.
Poor Me or Me, Me, Me
The poor me act, the we are worse off then you, or don’t forget about so and so, now I know you have no power but when will I unite, why are you ignoring me, I need you, you should be here right now, so the trend of me, me, me is still very much so strong in the Twin Flame community.
What is selfish?? You are that is who, if this is how you were thinking, if these are words you used, you are selfish. To be selfish is lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. Then there is the Twin Flames who are needy, having to message 10 times a day, who need your attention right now. Does either of these sound like you?? If so you are on a path of destruction and you will not have an easy time getting to union. While I am here to help you, I do not take the place of your Twin Flame and you are going about things all the one way. Being a Twin Flame you have to learn to be both independent and selfless.
A needy person will crave their partner just like a person a drug addict craves drugs. So you have to learn how not to be that way, almost wean yourself away from the person you have created your co-dependency with.
Needy people have no idea how to deal with any concerns in a non-needy, secure, way. They will feel that their given issue is the most important thing and they will not stop until they get someone to validate their feelings and tell them how to deal with the problem.
The first step in overcoming acting this way is to go to someone like me who can provide you with guidance, until you can learn a new way of acting and or responding to what has happened. Someone else is needed who can provide a lot of guidance, especially at first, until a new way of responding can be learned. There are two ways in which to do this, the hard or the easy way, just like quitting any other bad habit.
Here are some of the thing I will work on you with:
Work through any trust issues you may have.
I will show you how to give your twin flame the space you both need.
Show you how to focus on yourself in a positive way.
Help you manage anxiety.
Help you to figure out other interests in life.
Help you to build confidence in yourself.
This is all part of you becoming the best version of yourself. A must if you wish to get to that holy grail of union. I am pretty sure you want to do this the easy way and learn how not to be that way.
However working with someone who is selfish is a whole other ball game because even having a selfish person to admit that they are that way is an impossible task so signing up for tough love sessions are the only way to go!
How many of you are living in denial of who the person your twin flame truly is? Do you have him/her up on a pedestal? Thinking that they can do no wrong or knowing they do wrong but not accepting it? Does this sound like you? Yes!! If so you need to have a long hard look at who you are, who your twin flame is and begin the long road to seeing your twin flame for who they really are and accepting that they have flaw and that there are not this perfect version that you have built them up on your head to be. Your twin flame is most likely selfish, will not face up to issues, will contact you when it suits them and expect you to be there for them at the drop of a hat, this is where respecting yourself comes in, how do you do it without them moving further away from you? What is the correct way to lead your twin flame to respect you? This is only a small portion of what you will be shown if you go ahead and become a subscriber of my newest venture.Click here to find out more
What is Telepathy for Twin Flames?
Many times when we connect with our twin flame here on earth - if they are incarnated that is, we don’t understand or comprehend the energetics of it and when you are dealing with this journey only from a limited understanding, which is ok, you don’t need to understand it all, it can be difficult when things happen, that you don’t know why they are happening.
You may often hear on groups or in blogs by twin flames about telepathy, most of the time how they have it with their twin and it’s good because they aren’t in contact here in the physical, which is difficult enough but to not have that other connection with them.. You feel as if you’re totally lost yet you know the two of you are twin flames but why is the telepathy missing.
A Lesson in Time Saves Nine!
Think you don’t have telepathy with your twin flame? Well perhaps you don’t have “day to day” conversations. But what about those moments you swear you hear them say I love you in your ear. Or you start thinking of them and your heart begins to pound hard and you KNOW they’re thinking of you too. Or you were thinking of talking to them and they text you or call you or email you. Guess what? That is a form of telepathy. Telepathy is thought energy. What about those nights you dream of things and you’ve never dreamed of them before you met your twin flame, what about those nights you hear music in your head, songs you’ve not heard before but they seem so familiar or songs you’ve not listened to in weeks/months/years that stick in your head for what seems like forever and you know the lyrics and you feel pulled to go look up the words.. Guess what ??! That is telepathy, your twin is trying to send you messages from their higher self. It’s up to you to figure out what it means to you and your connection with them.
Telepathy isn’t a mental, conscious, logical 3D mind thing, it is a 5D, higher self thing between you. So I’m suggesting you stay aware of things like this that happen and if you experience something you aren’t sure is telepathy, I’d love for you to comment here or send me a message, I’ll help you. No cost to you for this.
That Mystical Moon
October 19th is the New Moon, when there is a New Moon, this means energetically you’re getting a double-shot of the astrological sign of that month, in this case Libra. The way I’d like to look at it is this. When it comes to the New Moon in Libra, you’re going to be looking at having to learn about balancing clear decision making with a possibility for making no decisions whatsoever. You’ll be wanting to use your emotions to actually fuel you to push forward to achieving your goals or to help you create the dreams to guide you towards the things that your soul wishes for.
It’s all about Libra
Libra is an Air Sign - LIbra is about your social and intellectual abilities, communication with others, thinking and how you interact with others. But try not to have your head in the clouds too much or get too mentally taxed trying to figure this out, because the emotional side of Libra, which because this sign is ruled by the planet Venus, you’ll be dealing with using your heart as well. To find the balance of being truthful with heartfelt feelings but also to learn to give and take with those who matter to you. It is also a Cardinal sign so while striving to be independent and driving with logic to achieve what you desire you can also be impatient. So when we look at the energy of Libra as the sun sign we are looking to create balance and harmony in our lives in every area we can while making sure justice is served, in other words everyone gets what they need and no one is left out or feeling less than including yourself. With the moon in the sign of Libra also this sign focuses on partnerships. This can apply to love relationships, work relationships, families and making sure it all works and fits together in harmony and all falls into place the way it is needing to be.
The thing is with the moon in Libra there can be a tendency to come across as shallow, or even needy or that we really aren’t coming into any relationship from the heart and this can mean lack of communicating what you really feel when that is what you are striving for. You are likely to find this energy affect you if you are a people pleaser which is not a good thing to be, for if you try to make everyone happy and neglect yourself you will find yourself lacking in many areas of your personal interactions with others. Not saying here to put yourself first but what I’m saying is that make sure you are honest with yourself first before you expressing things to others about how you feel about having them in your life.
Who Are You?
This energy is going to affect you for the next couple weeks and your other half, It’s pretty obvious to me that you need to understand your heart not your mind related to you and the connection you have with your twin flame.You can’t force this. The love from them can only come if you truly love who you are unconditionally (faults and imperfections included) and understand who you are.
My question is do you know what that means? Can you accept yourself as you are? Do you feel you need to be perfect to have your own self love and appreciate who you are? If you feel so that is false love, and your twin flame will mirror that to you in ways you will not expect.
Now I would like you to think of who you are in life, where are you headed? So many get stuck in a rut and have no ambition. Where did those great ideas you had go? Did you lose them? No you just forgot that you are the true master of your own destiny, this week, this is a very strong trend and some of you are going to be pulled kicking and screaming out of the doldrums you created. You may also be in for a dose of tough love at the universe’s hands. This can be utilized to get yourself back on track. There is no more time for procrastinating, grab the proverbial bull by the horns and make the most out of your life and twin flame journey!
Mum’s The Word
Also during this New Moon in phase because it is occurring in Libra, be careful who you share your twin flame journey with and who you go to for expressing to about what is or isn’t going on in your journey. Don’t get melancholy or upset, don’t get all sad and let that carry you into giving up or constantly seeking so much help that you really don’t get the clear guidance you need. In other words don’t go spouting off to anyone who will listen, including other twin flames.
Are You Blocking Your Union
Many times we don’t realize how much we are blocking our own progress to union by giving away our energy by telling everyone we know about the good we experience, and especially the bad we experience. It actually is like giving away your own power to union. If you truly must talk to someone about something please make sure it is with someone you trust and especially someone who can guide you not just lend an ear and a shoulder. When we tend to spout off to someone about the negative stuff going on it brings up stuff to that person about their own pain and that isn’t always a healing thing for either of you. Writing in your journal about it is usually better and then destroying it and throwing away the paper or burning it and then going back to your journal to write something positive about you and your twin flame instead. Shifting the energy to the positive. All it takes is to rid yourself of what is weighing you down and then turn it around by actually writing out what you’d like to happen as if it already has. Not in future tense but as if you’re already living it.
I know that quite a few of you have been feeling disconnected from your twin flame of late, so many slip into self pity mode when this happens, this is possibly one of the worst things you could ever do, not only will you be unhappy but you will delay your union further. Keeping a positive mind is not easy that I do know but you must strive for this. You are the leader, this is your job on your road to union.
Lastly but by no means least, your self worth is crying out for attention, I am hoping that some of you have now realized where you have been going wrong in regards to this, if not let me refresh you on what you need to do!!
Steps to having more self worth
First is to admit that you are good enough
Learn how to have self respect and respect for others
Trust yourself and the decisions you make
Stop comparing yourself to others
Get to know who you really are as a person
Do something scary
Know your strengths and weaknesses
Know you are beautiful no matter what
Help others to feel good about themselves
Focus on the things you can change
Do things you enjoy
Celebrate the small things
Why not begin today with this mantra:
I am (enter name) I am beautiful, I will learn to know that I can be enough and today is the day I will start to believe this. I will be strong and begin to learn my self worth. I am (enter name)
“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” – Stacey Charter
Just in case you missed this week's Twin Flame Tip, here it is for you!
Hi All, Tomorrow is a very interesting for us all, I don’t know about you but for the past few days I have been feeling sluggish, like the energies are just muggy, if you are feeling this you will be glad to know that it was just the beginning of the opening of the 10 ~ 10 Gateway and that feeling should leave us early in the morning. This is going to be one of my blogs where I wish for you to wake to it and read as you eat breakfast.
Let’s talk about this gateway, this one is important but it is not spoken about as much as the other more obvious ones. A person could almost miss out on this and that would be very foolish. I am being shown that this energy is going to be around for the next 7 days.
There are two ways that you can handle this energy. You can go backwards and stay there, this however may have you make a huge mistake, so I am asking you to do the opposite in a way. I want you to reflect , this is the optimum time for this. Look back at who you were when you began this journey, the first day you met your twin flame, who were you? Do you see a huge change? Have you learnt and changed as a person, grew in love with your twin flame? If you are answering yes to these questions you are on the right track. If it is no then we need to talk, so I would advise going ahead and booking that consultation.
Are You Dreaming
Have you felt like you have been communicating with your higher self or your twin flames higher self over the past few days?? Have your dreams been more realistic, you can remember them. If you have had a sense of calm surrounding you, embrace it and figure out what message you are been given. This is something I can also help you to work out. Dreams were super important on my journey. They gave me so much insight and over the past years since we reunited I am seeing why. Most of what I saw in my dreams has come true!!
Over this 10 ~ 10 gateway be on the lookout for numbers, different combinations can mean different things to your relationship. If you need help decoding this just let me know, there is no charge for this service!
Now is the optimum time to pay attention to your chakras, do you know what each one does and how it aids you on your journey?? Take for instance the throat chakra, helps with communication, so if you and yours have not been in contact or have the ability to give messages to each other on a higher level, chances are this is blocked.
Doubts Be Gone
Now is also a great time to let go of your doubts, why do you sit and overthink your journey, how is that going to change anything? How is that going to get you to union?? The simple answer is it will not. There are none of us who truly know what the future will be, while we get glimpses, human nature being what it is, along with free will involvement, will almost always change what was going to be. So what is the point of sitting there thinking, stop it, go out there and start doing things, making changes, working towards your mission. At times twin flames do procrastinate, then they feel stuck. Why are you stuck? Because instead of thinking you need to be doing, I can not make this message any clearer for you!
Think About This!
I asked the members of my group a question yesterday and to my surprise not many could answer it, correct me if I am wrong but only 2 people were close to it. I asked how much is your time worth. How do you measure that time? What is your self worth? So now I am putting that question out there to you, I would love to hear your thoughts so please feel free to send them to me. Think about it and I will talk about the different answers to this next week.
A trend to watch out for this week and in the future! I briefly mentioned in last week's blog that I would talk about this. So have you lied to your twin flame? Was it a white lie or a whopper? When you lied did your twin flame take what you said to be true? I am thinking the answer to that is yes, so now what?
You have lied, you can not take it back because then you will have broken your twin flames trust. Who wants to be lied to, no one but there is a big down fall to lying to your twin flame, they will know that you lied, they will feel it. They may not ask about it but they will always remember how you lying to them made them feel. Is there a way to fix this deception?How do you take it back? If you tell them you lied, you are scared they will high tail it, so what do you do. Catch 22!
How would you feel? Put yourself in their shoes, this is a huge breach of trust, it is going to hurt and leave you wondering why they felt they had to lie in the first place. You will feel disrespected like you were not able to handle the truth or that you were not important enough. It was so easy to lie to you! You will feel foolish. You will begin to lose trust in that person! Lastly if they do not confess you will begin to move away from them because of course this is a betrayal.
Lie in haste and repent at your leisure!! I hear a lot of the time well it was easier to lie because I did not want to tell him the horrible truth and then he would not want to be with me anyway! You just risked it all in thinking that!!!
Here is the tough love bit, you have to confront it, you must confess, you have to tell your twin flame that you did lie, there is no other way out of it. You remember I said they already know, so it is best to admit what you did so that you can build trust with them again.
The How To
The first thing I always advise is to think about why you had to tell that lie, what did it achieve?
You know you have to confess and it is not going to be easy, there will be consequences and I do know that this has been a test for many twin flames.
Will the relationship be the same? No it will not but I have come to find out that if you are willing to confess, face up to what you did, you can look your twin flame in the eye again, you will feel relieved, he/she will feel relieved. Explain your actions and why you did it.
If you were scared of him/her, give the reasons for that, if it is that you would lose them, tell them.
Say that you are sorry and mean it, that you will never do this again and mean it!
Getting caught in a lie and confessing a lie are two different things. The former will cost you everything! Remember that!
Lastly but by no means least I want to look at October 12 and if there is anything that we should be looking at. October 12th is the third quarter or last quarter moon phase, during this time we are in the midpoint of the waning moon phase before the next new moon, and as we enter the dark moon phase after October 12th, now is the time for you to look over how far you’ve come since the last new moon and what was completed since the full moon last on October 5th. Some of you will be sent further back. So the theme for the week is very strong!
It’s time to slow down, and think about what mistakes may have been made, what you’ve learned from them and where you can go from here.Time to reflect and realize what you have succeeded at, what you’ve maybe failed at - which is normal, failure happens to us all, and then prepare yourself, pick yourself up, dust yourself off, and start again with the new moon in a couple weeks.
Thank you all for reading and if you got this far that means I have not bored you into an involuntary coma. Have a great week ahead and of course as always any questions or feedback you may have is greatly appreciated.