What Do Most Twin Flames Forget On Their Twin Flame Journey?Hi All Over the past few months I have been learning more than ever about human nature and how we act as a society. It seems to me that not many of us can be ourselves for fear of judgement. Worrying about what others will think of us and what we are going through. The topic of Twin Flames is very rarely discussed among friends because there is a huge lack of understanding for who we are and what we do with our lives. Yes, the judgement is real and you are not alone in feeling that way.  LabelsWe all live in a society where we are hardwired to fit people into neat perfect boxes. Think about this as soon as you see someone you categorize them. We regularly apply labels to people whom we barely know or have never even met, and the same is done to us. I believe that on a whole we are obsessed with labels because we find it difficult to comprehend things that do not fit into our conditioned beliefs or those premade boxes that society has provided us with. In life everything seems to have to have a label and what happens within that label is often misunderstood or the information that is out there blurs the lines. These labels can be the result of unfounded assumptions and stereotypes. If you take the label Twin Flame away what do you have? Two people who love each other? Two people who are meant to be together? Two people that the stars need to align for? Or two people who are on an amazing but difficult journey together in a quest to find inner happiness and a love so great that all issues can be surmounted? A beautiful journey where you have found the ultimate love that a person can ever feel? Throughout our lives people attach labels to us whether we like it or not. Those labels can reflect and affect how others think about us and of course what we think about ourselves. It is important to note however that these labels are not always negative. They can at times be positive and help us to set out useful goals and bring sense to things that otherwise do not bring you clarity. Thus, for good or for bad, labels represent an influence on our identity that is often beyond our control. It is time to reflect on those labels and why we put them there in the first place. Perhaps the only label that should be put on someone is their name! Food for thought right.  Be Unapologetically YouWhen I am out and about I often pay attention to what is going on around me and one evening while out for dinner with my family I saw these labels and conditioned beliefs in full flight and I have to say it left me totally disappointed with humanity. There was a person at the bar being unapologetically themselves and a group of older ladies at the table next to ours were talking rudely and loudly about this person the whole time they tried to get our family to join in but we were having none of it. The things they were saying were totally uncool and I could never engage in something like that. Of course they were not being diplomatic about it at all. I know you are wondering what this person was doing that upset this group of ladies so much. Wearing nail polish and carrying a purse is hardly gossip worthy but it is (to them) if you were born male. The person they were speaking about picked you their purse and proudly walked past them. Being unapologetically them. Another example of how society tries to form us human beings is my youngest son, 11 years old, who loves to wear nail polish. He is not picky about the colors however when he wore it to school once he was picked on. It is not a problem in our family to be yourself. However now he feels that he can not do this anymore not on his fingers anyway but he 100% paints his toenails and he does this as a way of being himself right now without having to deal with the hurtful words of others. Think about that! Do you push your strong beliefs on others or do you allow them to explore and find themselves? I would be very interested and love to hear your stories on this! Have you found yourself holding back your true beliefs because of what others will think of you or treat you? If so I want you to apologize to yourself for not being true to you. Sadly we all do this and one point or other so I am sure you can relate. Be ready to be you in your truest form and never apologize for being yourself because you were created exactly how you were meant to be. Have you been searching for understanding and not being able to find that non judgmental space? If yes please feel free to connect with me. I promise to never judge you.  Forgetful Twin FlamesTime to move on to what most Twin Flames forget when on their journey! I know that is why you are really here.
I know this one will have got you thinking and trying to figure out what it is that we all forget. Some answers when I put this question out to the group were very interesting but I did not expect to see this answer there and it was not. Why was it not there? Quite simply we do not think of ourselves. We are always thinking of others and our Twin Flames and what we can do for them. The long and short of it is. Twin Flames do not fill their cup, in fact they do not even know that they should. In today’s world we are all busy. There is always something to be done, someone to help. We seem to be forever trying to catch up. Thinking of your Twin Flame and how to move forward on your journey is exhausting in itself. Wondering how they are doing. Contemplating how I can help them. Even sleeping can become difficult as we become consumed with these thoughts and all the while we are forgetting ourselves. This makes it hard to find time to unwind. To unplug from this journey. Even life in general is so busy the idea of unwinding and unplugging sounds nice however those feelings of guilt creep in. I have so much to do, I will let someone down, someone will inevitably be disappointed. Everything and anything seems like a priority. So we just keep moving but what we do not notice is that our cup is leaking slowly at first. Then boom we begin to feel burnout and from that burn out comes feelings of being not worthy, I am not enough, this journey is not working out, how did I get to here and they just do not love me. They are not changing, they are not working. Why do I bother? Sound familiar. Our bodies are equipped to handle stress in short bursts, not long term. It’s no secret that long-term stress has many negative effects on the body. Right there and then it is time to stop. Simply stop! Who helps you out? Who fills your cup? Is it time to fill your cup? The answer is you. You fill your cup because you can not pour from an empty cup. I am sure you have heard the instructions when you are on a flight to put your own oxygen mask on first before helping others put on their oxygen mask. To fill your cup means to recharge your mental, emotional and physical energy. It means you need to stop and take a break. You must do something for you. When you stop to fill your cup, you are recharging your batteries so that you can better deal with whatever you will face the next day. What can you do to help yourself out today? A stress free day A Twin Flame free day A long soak in a hot tub Some adult coloring books Puzzles Listening to your favorite music Meditation Read your favorite book Watch a good movie Do yoga Sleep in Learn something new Get a facial or mani/pedi Attend a self care workshop by Carol Mary (😊) Information for Self Care Workshop on 12/12/2021 This is just a short list of the many things you can do to help yourself and fill up your cup today. Which one will you do? I would love to hear from you on how you practice self care. Self care is not selfish, it is necessary. Final Thoughts It is important to remember that one size does not fit all. That each person and their journey is unique. When you categorize yourself or put a label on yourself you do not reach your full potential and remember that you are more than just a label. Be yourself, everyone else is taken. Take a moment today and think about yourself and remember that you are important too. Much Love Carol Mary P.S I am currently running a special offer to buy 3 coaching sessions and get one free. That is a saving of $150. Contact me for more information for what I can do to help you reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: www.instagram.com/reunitingcomesfromwithintwinfl/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs. I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2021. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner.
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All Things Twin Flame and MoreHi All, One of the main things I hear from people on this journey is that I have no one to talk to about what I am going through. No one understands me and what I am dealing with. How can I tell another person in my life that I am in love with someone who seems to not pay any attention to me. They would never get it. Sadly you are right because we live in a world filled with conditioned beliefs about life and love. We are meant to fit into a box and conform to what our elders and society thinks that we should. I think about how many people who are a part of my life and how much they would not fully understand what I do either. What box do I fit in? I struggled with that for many years. I did not fit in, I did not think in the same way as others. I did not have the life beliefs that they had. I did not have dreams of the big wedding day, having a family, a great job, 2 dogs and a life full of happiness. Well that is the dream right? The expectation we put on ourselves. However I did not want that. I wanted something different. I wanted adventure, travel and to never settle down. Life taught and gave me that in another way. I remember my female friends always talking about their future plans, the ideal man, what was their first initials, having a crush on someone and writing their last name as their last name. How this person was going to create the happiest life for them. When I think about that now I laugh. How simple it all was but life is not simple. It is very complex and complicated. I remember once walking into my hairdressers and I asked them to shave my hair underneath, an undercut and them looking at me and saying to me are you sure? I was like yes I am certain. I wanted to make a statement, thinking I would do something that was never expected of me. Expectations those things that come along with conditioned beliefs. I was misunderstood quite often when I was younger, I challenged things all of the time or maybe I wanted to do that so that I could blaze the path that I wanted in life. So that I did not have to conform. I have since learnt that Twin Flames do not fit in. We have a different path to follow and I believe this is the case because we are meant to create change in the world with a different set of values and beliefs. As you move along through your journey and everything that is thrown at you remember that this life you were given is for you to live, not to sit in sorrow everyday waiting for your Twin Flame to come home to you. Make each thing that you do count. Work on yourself, heal, make waves, be carefree, go on an adventure, but do not sit in sorrow and wait. You do know you can have a good life while working on uniting with your Twin Flame? Do you create this conditioned beliefs for yourself? Time Truly is a Thief. I read something today that really resonated with me. It was simply “time truly is a thief”. It made me stop and think. That it is correct, it is something that we can never get back once it has passed so make today the day you decide to make the most of every moment that is presented to you even if it is not a positive. Food for Thought Taking some time out of life today and look at life through the eyes of a child. Before all of the conditioned beliefs are placed on them. Take some time to talk to them and you will get a whole different view on the world. Did you miss something? Something I feel that many people miss on their life journey is that they need to create the change, they need to heal themselves. While others can guide you on how to, you actually have to do the work. You have to pull yourself together and work on all those things that scare you to deal with. Clearing out all of the old baggage in your life and looking at things in a new light from a new perspective is an amazing thing. Blurred Lines I did a question and answer session recently in the group I run on Facebook, it was very interesting and good fun, however a question did come up that was most thought provoking so I wanted to share that with you. Is it ever advisable for people who are Twin Flames to be in a relationship with another Twin Flame who is not theirs? Ooooo this is a very good question because I feel that there are times when the lines can get blurred and I have seen it happen before. Where two people who are Twin Flames meet while they are looking for answers on how to unite with their respective Twin Flames. They become close because they talk a lot and learn so much about each other. This can turn into an attraction and then a romantic relationship will happen. Sounds ok right? Two consenting adults meeting and seemingly falling in love. Wrong ~ I have seen this before and it never works out. In fact it quite simply causes more hurt. Here is Why;
 Something you Should Know The first thing you should know is that you are allowed to be happy. That you are deserving of love and can find love even if it is not with your Twin Flame. The Twin Flame journey is not an easy one at all even though in many articles I have read that it is meant to flow and will be the best relationship of your life. However that is never the case and there is a lot of bullshit and red tape to go through before you will get to that part and even at that there are lessons. Them being with someone else and in a seemingly perfect relationship can be commonplace. Some even go so far as to get married to another person or have a baby with them before they wake up and realize. It sucks I know and goes beyond the realms of those conditioned beliefs we have talked about earlier. There are ways to move forward in your life and Twin Flame relationship even with the universe blocking you from doing so but it comes from within you. Reunite with yourself and come to a place in your life where you will feel happy with them or without them. When you come to this space and truly do you will be able to reconcile yourself with the past and move on with your life in a positive way. It is a lot of hard work but in doing that you can find yourself in a better position. It really is a double sided coin: Some Twin Flames may also have to reconcile yourself with the fact that you will always love your Twin Flame while allowing space for another in your heart also knowing that you will not experience that same spark and connection with another again. However, knowing that you can love another in a different way. I also find that for most people it is almost impossible to move forward because the universe will always put them in your way. All you can do in this situation is keep moving forward, stay in your lane and the rest will come to you. I think this is because union is never guaranteed however I will always believe union is possible. How is that so I hear you ask. Is this all about your perception and outlook on things? I wrote a blog on this a while back and here is the link for you to read up on it. www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/fanning-the-flames-vol-109 Contradiction It may seem like a contradiction to tell you in one answer that two Twin Flames should not allow themselves to blur the lines with each other and in another that you can move onwards however it is not practical for Twin Flames who are not each others to be together because of the hurt it will cause in the end. Maybe I am just giving you options, things to think about! Twin Flame Sleeper I am not sure if I ever told you this but I hope that it is not a secret that I was the sleeper Twin Flame for many years of my relationship with my husband. I was the one who would run from him. I did it successfully for quite a few years. When I look back over the years from a different perspective I see that I was the sleeper. Always finding a way that the relationship could not possibly work out. Could you be a sleeper in disguise too? Lastly I am not here to judge your story but I am here to help you walk through it and write your next chapter as you would like it written. My services are not just to help you get to union but to show you a new perspective on your life. To show you what a capable and wonderful person you are. When was the last time you were happy, truly happy? Where in the moment you felt that this is how life should be. I am right where I am meant to be? If you do not have an answer to that book a life and relationship coaching session with me today. By the way; Did I regret shaving my head? Maybe I did, it took 5 years to grow back however I have learnt that all good things do really come to those who wait with the right attitude while waiting. Patience is a huge part of your journey in life I feel and it does not get enough credit. Another contradiction or food for thought? Always remember to truly understand another person you have to try and walk in their shoes and stop limiting your beliefs. There is so much out there in the world for you to discover. Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: www.instagram.com/reunitingcomesfromwithintwinfl/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2021. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner  Twin Flame Union BreakersHi All, I just realized today that the last time I wrote a blog was July 2020, oh how time goes by so quickly in this ever changing world we live in. I think we have all been learning how to live in this new more confused world. I have gone back and forth on whether I should write this blog or not because I know that for some this will not be a popular topic however I do feel that it needs to be said and not only to protect you but to help you to see the light on your Twin Flame or life’s journey. I see that the word Twin Flame is being thrown around in the media and amongst celebs these days. Does this take away from what Twin Flames are truly about? Are they just two words now without the beautiful meaning that was behind them before it became the latest trend? Or is it much better because now it is not such a taboo subject? I also have been wondering in general if our inherent need to find the love of our lives and constantly seeking out the perfect life that leads us to the conclusion that we must find our Twin Flame or that you have to be with them no matter what and at all cost? I am also sure that your longing to be with your Twin Flame has become more pronounced over the past year. Fear is most likely playing a role in that. The fear that you will never see them again combined with the what if’s, and’s and but's. So bearing all of that in mind I am going to let you in on what others may not but the reasons why some Twin Flames are just not meant to unite in this lifetime and no matter what you do it will not happen. Mental Health With mental health issues becoming something that we are all dealing with more, stay at home orders, filling your time up where you once went out and hung out with your friends. Being alone or not having any of your usual outlets for your emotions becoming commonplace. I ask the question: are you taking care of your mental health? You mental health and state of mind really are pivotal on this journey, when it comes to being so affected by what is going on in your life that you are contemplating ending your life or doing something that could land you in big trouble, it is time to stop. Union is not a priority anymore, you are! There is not one person in this lifetime worth you taking your life over. If this becomes an issue for you, it is time to seek counselling and work through these issues you are feeling before it is too late. Be an active participant in your own life and mental health. Narcissists and the Twin Flame Journey Another common belief out there is that the sleeper can be a narcissist however I have found that it can in fact be the person who believes they are the leader Twin Flame who really is the narcissist. This comes from their sense of entitlement that union is theirs no matter what they do or how they treat their Twin Flame and others in life. It is all a matter of control and when you are on a true Twin Flame journey almost everything except your inner healing is out of your control. There sometimes is an unhealthy need for attention and admiration from the other person, this can indicate that there are narcissist tendencies. The person may not be able to handle any criticism at all therefore not working on the things that they need to because they will not accept that they are doing anything wrong in the first place. They quite simply disregard the feelings of the sleeper and continue to keep doing what they have always done, even if they are given advice to the contrary, they do not stop. Then they blame others for the mistakes they make. However even though the cases of this are few and far between, it is not outside of the realms of belief on this journey. In this case union will not happen unless the leader Twin Flame works through these issues.  Stalking Twin Flames do not stalk. They just do not even though often times they are perceived as stalkers. Time to educate yourself; The difference between being a stalker and a Twin Flame is huge. Stalking is following the person around. Showing up to their home, place of work or even a store they commonly go to, Twin Flames do not do this in fact most of my clients are very surprised when they do come into contact with their Twin Flame. Stalking is sending gifts, cards, flowers or money to the victim in an unsolicited manner, Twin Flames do not do this either. In fact many of them are too fearful of upsetting the other by doing something like this. Stalking is tracking their online activity to the extreme. Many of the Twin Flames I know have decided not to even look at their Twin Flames social media or online activity for they do not live in that needy space and if they have been they quickly realize that it serves no purpose. Stalking is harassing another person’s friends and family. This is not cool and not something that I believe Twin Flames partake in. Stalking is physically or sexually assaulting the victim or the victims friends and family. Twin Flames are peaceful people and do not act this way at all. In fact most are empaths and very sensitive to the feelings of others. Stalking is stealing, vandalizing or damaging the victim or the victims family and friend’s property. I have never come across a Twin Flame who does this. I do know that there are rare cases where a Twin Flame will have a restraining or no contact order put on them through the courts. The never happening for a Twin Flame is if they have a restraining order put on them. Your journey ends there because chances are you have done something that is way above and beyond for the other person. There is nothing that can be done to change those circumstances. If you have or are doing any of the above examples of stalking, you do need to seek help for your actions. This is an unhealthy obsession. The no coming back from:
Healthy Balance The world must not and should not revolve around your Twin Flame. In fact this journey is a healing one, one where you learn about yourself and work on your inner healing. Finding your space in the universe where you are happy in your own skin. Discovering whether it is a romantic connection or a friendship should be established early. It is very important to recognize that it is a soul connection, a healing connection and one that will test you to your limits. I believe it is important to remember that the sleepers actions are not coming from the same place as you. They are not awakened to the journey like you are and it is foolish to think things are any other way until they indicate to you that things have changed. A word to the wise: be careful who you align yourself with on this journey as the energies of others can really bring negative into your life. Ensuring that you keep positive in your life and in each day is pivotal. That will help you to create a healthy balance in your life. Self Worth Your level of self worth can really affect where you are on the Twin Flame journey and I have come to the conclusion that you need to work on this and come to a place of peace with who you are flaws and all. I have just this week created a new video for you to have a watch of and I do feel that it will help you with your self worth. This is video 3 in the series for you: www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEV01hjLgGo&list=PLog9ebJmHt47f8jKyL75yYebmjAcoTkVV&index=1 Final Thoughts If you are interested in becoming a successful leader Twin Flame and helping yourself to change your life. Maybe it is time to invest in yourself and take one of the classes that I have on offer for Twin Flames. If you would like to see some sample exercises in this class go ahead and send me an email @ reuntingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Always remember there are no experts on your life’s journey and with your Twin Flame. I too am learning with you and everyday brings something new. Something for sure to note however is Reuniting Comes From Within. Classes by Carol Mary Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: www.instagram.com/reunitingcomesfromwithintwinfl/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2021. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner  |
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