All Things Twin Flame and MoreHi All, One of the main things I hear from people on this journey is that I have no one to talk to about what I am going through. No one understands me and what I am dealing with. How can I tell another person in my life that I am in love with someone who seems to not pay any attention to me. They would never get it. Sadly you are right because we live in a world filled with conditioned beliefs about life and love. We are meant to fit into a box and conform to what our elders and society thinks that we should. I think about how many people who are a part of my life and how much they would not fully understand what I do either. What box do I fit in? I struggled with that for many years. I did not fit in, I did not think in the same way as others. I did not have the life beliefs that they had. I did not have dreams of the big wedding day, having a family, a great job, 2 dogs and a life full of happiness. Well that is the dream right? The expectation we put on ourselves. However I did not want that. I wanted something different. I wanted adventure, travel and to never settle down. Life taught and gave me that in another way. I remember my female friends always talking about their future plans, the ideal man, what was their first initials, having a crush on someone and writing their last name as their last name. How this person was going to create the happiest life for them. When I think about that now I laugh. How simple it all was but life is not simple. It is very complex and complicated. I remember once walking into my hairdressers and I asked them to shave my hair underneath, an undercut and them looking at me and saying to me are you sure? I was like yes I am certain. I wanted to make a statement, thinking I would do something that was never expected of me. Expectations those things that come along with conditioned beliefs. I was misunderstood quite often when I was younger, I challenged things all of the time or maybe I wanted to do that so that I could blaze the path that I wanted in life. So that I did not have to conform. I have since learnt that Twin Flames do not fit in. We have a different path to follow and I believe this is the case because we are meant to create change in the world with a different set of values and beliefs. As you move along through your journey and everything that is thrown at you remember that this life you were given is for you to live, not to sit in sorrow everyday waiting for your Twin Flame to come home to you. Make each thing that you do count. Work on yourself, heal, make waves, be carefree, go on an adventure, but do not sit in sorrow and wait. You do know you can have a good life while working on uniting with your Twin Flame? Do you create this conditioned beliefs for yourself? Time Truly is a Thief. I read something today that really resonated with me. It was simply “time truly is a thief”. It made me stop and think. That it is correct, it is something that we can never get back once it has passed so make today the day you decide to make the most of every moment that is presented to you even if it is not a positive. Food for Thought Taking some time out of life today and look at life through the eyes of a child. Before all of the conditioned beliefs are placed on them. Take some time to talk to them and you will get a whole different view on the world. Did you miss something? Something I feel that many people miss on their life journey is that they need to create the change, they need to heal themselves. While others can guide you on how to, you actually have to do the work. You have to pull yourself together and work on all those things that scare you to deal with. Clearing out all of the old baggage in your life and looking at things in a new light from a new perspective is an amazing thing. Blurred Lines I did a question and answer session recently in the group I run on Facebook, it was very interesting and good fun, however a question did come up that was most thought provoking so I wanted to share that with you. Is it ever advisable for people who are Twin Flames to be in a relationship with another Twin Flame who is not theirs? Ooooo this is a very good question because I feel that there are times when the lines can get blurred and I have seen it happen before. Where two people who are Twin Flames meet while they are looking for answers on how to unite with their respective Twin Flames. They become close because they talk a lot and learn so much about each other. This can turn into an attraction and then a romantic relationship will happen. Sounds ok right? Two consenting adults meeting and seemingly falling in love. Wrong ~ I have seen this before and it never works out. In fact it quite simply causes more hurt. Here is Why;
 Something you Should Know The first thing you should know is that you are allowed to be happy. That you are deserving of love and can find love even if it is not with your Twin Flame. The Twin Flame journey is not an easy one at all even though in many articles I have read that it is meant to flow and will be the best relationship of your life. However that is never the case and there is a lot of bullshit and red tape to go through before you will get to that part and even at that there are lessons. Them being with someone else and in a seemingly perfect relationship can be commonplace. Some even go so far as to get married to another person or have a baby with them before they wake up and realize. It sucks I know and goes beyond the realms of those conditioned beliefs we have talked about earlier. There are ways to move forward in your life and Twin Flame relationship even with the universe blocking you from doing so but it comes from within you. Reunite with yourself and come to a place in your life where you will feel happy with them or without them. When you come to this space and truly do you will be able to reconcile yourself with the past and move on with your life in a positive way. It is a lot of hard work but in doing that you can find yourself in a better position. It really is a double sided coin: Some Twin Flames may also have to reconcile yourself with the fact that you will always love your Twin Flame while allowing space for another in your heart also knowing that you will not experience that same spark and connection with another again. However, knowing that you can love another in a different way. I also find that for most people it is almost impossible to move forward because the universe will always put them in your way. All you can do in this situation is keep moving forward, stay in your lane and the rest will come to you. I think this is because union is never guaranteed however I will always believe union is possible. How is that so I hear you ask. Is this all about your perception and outlook on things? I wrote a blog on this a while back and here is the link for you to read up on it. www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/fanning-the-flames-vol-109 Contradiction It may seem like a contradiction to tell you in one answer that two Twin Flames should not allow themselves to blur the lines with each other and in another that you can move onwards however it is not practical for Twin Flames who are not each others to be together because of the hurt it will cause in the end. Maybe I am just giving you options, things to think about! Twin Flame Sleeper I am not sure if I ever told you this but I hope that it is not a secret that I was the sleeper Twin Flame for many years of my relationship with my husband. I was the one who would run from him. I did it successfully for quite a few years. When I look back over the years from a different perspective I see that I was the sleeper. Always finding a way that the relationship could not possibly work out. Could you be a sleeper in disguise too? Lastly I am not here to judge your story but I am here to help you walk through it and write your next chapter as you would like it written. My services are not just to help you get to union but to show you a new perspective on your life. To show you what a capable and wonderful person you are. When was the last time you were happy, truly happy? Where in the moment you felt that this is how life should be. I am right where I am meant to be? If you do not have an answer to that book a life and relationship coaching session with me today. By the way; Did I regret shaving my head? Maybe I did, it took 5 years to grow back however I have learnt that all good things do really come to those who wait with the right attitude while waiting. Patience is a huge part of your journey in life I feel and it does not get enough credit. Another contradiction or food for thought? Always remember to truly understand another person you have to try and walk in their shoes and stop limiting your beliefs. There is so much out there in the world for you to discover. Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: www.instagram.com/reunitingcomesfromwithintwinfl/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2021. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner 
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Twin Flame Union BreakersHi All, I just realized today that the last time I wrote a blog was July 2020, oh how time goes by so quickly in this ever changing world we live in. I think we have all been learning how to live in this new more confused world. I have gone back and forth on whether I should write this blog or not because I know that for some this will not be a popular topic however I do feel that it needs to be said and not only to protect you but to help you to see the light on your Twin Flame or life’s journey. I see that the word Twin Flame is being thrown around in the media and amongst celebs these days. Does this take away from what Twin Flames are truly about? Are they just two words now without the beautiful meaning that was behind them before it became the latest trend? Or is it much better because now it is not such a taboo subject? I also have been wondering in general if our inherent need to find the love of our lives and constantly seeking out the perfect life that leads us to the conclusion that we must find our Twin Flame or that you have to be with them no matter what and at all cost? I am also sure that your longing to be with your Twin Flame has become more pronounced over the past year. Fear is most likely playing a role in that. The fear that you will never see them again combined with the what if’s, and’s and but's. So bearing all of that in mind I am going to let you in on what others may not but the reasons why some Twin Flames are just not meant to unite in this lifetime and no matter what you do it will not happen. Mental Health With mental health issues becoming something that we are all dealing with more, stay at home orders, filling your time up where you once went out and hung out with your friends. Being alone or not having any of your usual outlets for your emotions becoming commonplace. I ask the question: are you taking care of your mental health? You mental health and state of mind really are pivotal on this journey, when it comes to being so affected by what is going on in your life that you are contemplating ending your life or doing something that could land you in big trouble, it is time to stop. Union is not a priority anymore, you are! There is not one person in this lifetime worth you taking your life over. If this becomes an issue for you, it is time to seek counselling and work through these issues you are feeling before it is too late. Be an active participant in your own life and mental health. Narcissists and the Twin Flame Journey Another common belief out there is that the sleeper can be a narcissist however I have found that it can in fact be the person who believes they are the leader Twin Flame who really is the narcissist. This comes from their sense of entitlement that union is theirs no matter what they do or how they treat their Twin Flame and others in life. It is all a matter of control and when you are on a true Twin Flame journey almost everything except your inner healing is out of your control. There sometimes is an unhealthy need for attention and admiration from the other person, this can indicate that there are narcissist tendencies. The person may not be able to handle any criticism at all therefore not working on the things that they need to because they will not accept that they are doing anything wrong in the first place. They quite simply disregard the feelings of the sleeper and continue to keep doing what they have always done, even if they are given advice to the contrary, they do not stop. Then they blame others for the mistakes they make. However even though the cases of this are few and far between, it is not outside of the realms of belief on this journey. In this case union will not happen unless the leader Twin Flame works through these issues.  Stalking Twin Flames do not stalk. They just do not even though often times they are perceived as stalkers. Time to educate yourself; The difference between being a stalker and a Twin Flame is huge. Stalking is following the person around. Showing up to their home, place of work or even a store they commonly go to, Twin Flames do not do this in fact most of my clients are very surprised when they do come into contact with their Twin Flame. Stalking is sending gifts, cards, flowers or money to the victim in an unsolicited manner, Twin Flames do not do this either. In fact many of them are too fearful of upsetting the other by doing something like this. Stalking is tracking their online activity to the extreme. Many of the Twin Flames I know have decided not to even look at their Twin Flames social media or online activity for they do not live in that needy space and if they have been they quickly realize that it serves no purpose. Stalking is harassing another person’s friends and family. This is not cool and not something that I believe Twin Flames partake in. Stalking is physically or sexually assaulting the victim or the victims friends and family. Twin Flames are peaceful people and do not act this way at all. In fact most are empaths and very sensitive to the feelings of others. Stalking is stealing, vandalizing or damaging the victim or the victims family and friend’s property. I have never come across a Twin Flame who does this. I do know that there are rare cases where a Twin Flame will have a restraining or no contact order put on them through the courts. The never happening for a Twin Flame is if they have a restraining order put on them. Your journey ends there because chances are you have done something that is way above and beyond for the other person. There is nothing that can be done to change those circumstances. If you have or are doing any of the above examples of stalking, you do need to seek help for your actions. This is an unhealthy obsession. The no coming back from:
Healthy Balance The world must not and should not revolve around your Twin Flame. In fact this journey is a healing one, one where you learn about yourself and work on your inner healing. Finding your space in the universe where you are happy in your own skin. Discovering whether it is a romantic connection or a friendship should be established early. It is very important to recognize that it is a soul connection, a healing connection and one that will test you to your limits. I believe it is important to remember that the sleepers actions are not coming from the same place as you. They are not awakened to the journey like you are and it is foolish to think things are any other way until they indicate to you that things have changed. A word to the wise: be careful who you align yourself with on this journey as the energies of others can really bring negative into your life. Ensuring that you keep positive in your life and in each day is pivotal. That will help you to create a healthy balance in your life. Self Worth Your level of self worth can really affect where you are on the Twin Flame journey and I have come to the conclusion that you need to work on this and come to a place of peace with who you are flaws and all. I have just this week created a new video for you to have a watch of and I do feel that it will help you with your self worth. This is video 3 in the series for you: www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEV01hjLgGo&list=PLog9ebJmHt47f8jKyL75yYebmjAcoTkVV&index=1 Final Thoughts If you are interested in becoming a successful leader Twin Flame and helping yourself to change your life. Maybe it is time to invest in yourself and take one of the classes that I have on offer for Twin Flames. If you would like to see some sample exercises in this class go ahead and send me an email @ reuntingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Always remember there are no experts on your life’s journey and with your Twin Flame. I too am learning with you and everyday brings something new. Something for sure to note however is Reuniting Comes From Within. Classes by Carol Mary Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: www.instagram.com/reunitingcomesfromwithintwinfl/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2021. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner  Do you make these Twin Flame errors?Hi All, Welcome to July, I feel like the months have been going by quickly however it seems that we are now living life at a slower pace, so I guess you could say that is the one positive of COVID, is that people had no choice but to sit and evaluate their lives. Creating change, have you been one of those people and if yes, I would love to hear about the changes you have been making. I am a self admitting people watcher, us humans are super interesting, body language speaks far more than words to me and I do not think we genuinely know and understand how much we give away by our actions. Actions speak louder than words or do they? Actions are very important on this Twin Flame journey and they are greatly affecting especially when it comes to the sleeper, many feel that their actions speak volumes, however most pick up the message that they are giving you in the totally wrong way and that can really hold you back. An example of that would be, your Twin Flame and you have not seen each other for a while and when you do you both argue, you walk away, they walk away and you both have different thoughts from that encounter. What you see is how could they treat me that way after they have not seen me for so long. I love them but I will not be treated this way. What your Twin Flame feels, I love you but wow it is hard to be around you because you are always mad with me for not seeing you but every time I do see you, we fight because we do not see each other. This then becomes a cycle. Another scenario might be, your Twin Flame had sex with someone else, this is a huge one and honestly very hurtful. However you are not in a committed relationship with each other, you have not become exclusive so your Twin Flame is free to be with someone else as are you. The action of them sleeping with another person is totally unbelievable to you, how could they do that after being with you. You cry, your become angry, you feel you are not good enough for them, so many emotions are being felt by you at this point. However you were not exclusive, you are not married, hell you are not even in a relationship with them, so how did they cheat? Just because of the connection that you have with your Twin Flame it does not mean that you own them, it does not mean that you can control them or their actions. One of the biggest mistakes a Twin Flame leader makes is thinking that they can have authority or ownership rights of their counterpart. Pecking order of the relationship While I was sitting in the hairdressers this past week, I overheard a conversation, yes accidentally on purpose, about how this lady felt that for the first 3 years of her relationship they were trying to establish the pecking order. I was listening to this in amusement because this is one of the hardest things on the Twin Flame journey. There are two positions many people feel they are in when they begin their journey, either they are above or below their counterpart, they never see themselves as equal, they are on the pedestal or they have hurt them so much they are down there in the gutter. The power struggle is real. There should be no such thing as pecking order in any relationship you have with another person, you should not be friends with someone to make yourself better about who you are. You should not be friends with someone if they put you down and make you feel less than you are. Being equal to others is what many people fight for every day, the world is unjust but you do not have to be. Allow each and every person who comes into your life to be treated as your equal because at the end of the day. Lead others with your positive example. Even if someone annoys you or makes you feel angry, treat them with compassion and how you would like to be treated. This is the way forward. Your Twin Flame is your equal, you were chosen to be with each other and even though both of you make mistakes, do not allow one of the biggest mistakes Twin Flames make to stand in the way of your relationship with each other which is not seeing your sleeper as your equal.  Is it your right to judge them for what they do? The short answer to this is no but you would be amazed how many Twin Flame leaders judge their sleeper and get angry because they seem to have the ability to live their lives and not show that they are missing you or even show any wish to see you. I mean how dare they?!? They are so inconsiderate right? Wrong that is the assumption that you have made, while you may feel you know what is going on because of the connection you have, for the most part you have no clue what they are truly thinking. Selfishness I feel that often the leader Twin Flame believes that the sleeper Twin Flame is a very selfish person because if they were not they would listen to you and understand what you were trying to accomplish. When you think this way you are not coming from a place of understanding, where are you coming from then I hear you ask and yes I am going to use that word ego! Yes I actually said ego. We have seen more recently than other times how selfish people really can be, COVID and toilet paper for instance, those times when people do not think of others and their needs. Stocking up on all of their feelings and letting them lose on your sleeper Twin Flame all at once will cause a huge ripple effect and I have been seeing more of this recently as people have more time than usual on their hands. Too much time to think so while you are thinking why don’t you go ahead and see how you can make a positive change today, instead of a negative one. How you React I can not express to you how much the way you react to a given situation on this journey will allow you to get further and further away from union. Before you react think, your actions affect union more than you know, the longer you live in a space of hurt, the longer you believe that you own your Twin Flame, the longer you feel that you know it all and the more intense of a person you are, can all scare your sleeper away and have them not wanting to come back. While the leader often lays blame at the door of their Twin Flame they can not see where they are going wrong. You must always look within first, then come from a place of understanding until you understand who you are and how you react to situations, you will not be able to understand your sleeper. It is important also to note that what you give out to the universe you will get in return. So if you are a person who lives in a lower or negative vibe, that is exactly what will be given back to you in return. Self pity will not be tolerated on this journey. Be careful what you wish for when you are angry with your Twin Flame because that is exactly what you might get if you continue in that mindset. While I do know that it is hard to always be the one who is positive, the one who seems to be the only one doing any work. It is essential that you find something uplifting in each day even if it is as simple as listening to your favorite song. No more what ifs, don't look back, only forward and at what is!! Continue to always move forward, do not stay stuck. If you have that internal and eternal feeling of being stuck,not knowing how to get past the hurdles presented to you, we need to talk, so feel free to email me at reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com. Last months blog, a must read if you have not read it yet all about communication and your Twin Flame:https://www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/communication-and-your-twin-flame#/ Do Twin Flames have a history and how can science be linked? Yes read on here:https://www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/twin-flame-must-knows/the-science-and-history-of-twin-flames#/ Useful Links: Contact me at: reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com Facebook: www.facebook.com/CarolMary1111/ Twitter: www.twitter.com/CarolMary1111 Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/carolmary11.11/ YouTube: www.youtube.com/channel/UCQ1xAgZKyLOJ1fNEUtW69bg Pinterest: www.pinterest.com/carolmary11/ Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/reunitingcomesfromwithin/ This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. “Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.” ~ Carol Mary Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct messages or Facebook inbox. ©Carol Mary 2013 ~ 2020. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. 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