Reuniting Comes From Within

Fanning The Flames 8.3

11/25/2017

You Are Enough!!

Hi All,

I was going to call this, how do you know you are enough but I changed my mind because I know that you are enough, now it is your turn to know that you are.

So how do you know you are enough? This is a matter that really covers issues like self worth, self esteem, personal empowerment, and judgement on yourself. Many times we feel we are NOT “good enough”. What does that really mean anyhow and where does that come from? Are you being too hard on yourself?

Why

Not feeling “good enough” stems from comparing yourself and your life, your looks and so forth to others and somehow convincing yourself you don’t measure up or don’t equal someone else’s accomplishments or whatever it may be. That is an amazing amount of pressure on your heart emotionally, on your mind, and also spiritually, not to mention negative and allowing more negativity to permeate you and rev up your inner critic and your negative Nelly personna, not to mention the green eyed monster of envy and jealousy. Rather a lot to comprehend isn’t it? I am sure you can think of many situations you do this, now and have in the past. While it isn’t an easy “habit” to stop, I’ll be honest.. YOU HAVE TO! If you ever expect to improve your life.

The How To

So where to begin to change this behavior? While I can’t give you specific information as each and everyone one of you are different what I can tell you is:

Our minds do this “programming” to us. If you remind yourself over and over about all the good things you like AND LOVE about yourself and I mean that.. From the small things to the big things you love about YOU, I can tell you that you’ll begin to let go of all this and realize you are definitely WORTHY and GOOD ENOUGH!! Remember to love who you are as you are. Love yourself because you will need it most when you think you need it the least.

Start your day with looking in the mirror and fill your heart with love and appreciation of you as you are and say things like that to yourself in the mirror.

Say to yourself: (Your Name) I love you I really love you because you are so _____ , you have such pretty _____ and so on. In fact write out what you want to say to yourself and tape it to the wall near your mirror or on the mirror so you can see it as you read it.

Do not let the negative mind thing and the criticism come into play! Do not believe it if it does - to be honest that is your arrogant ego doing it! If someone else in your life puts you down please always remember that is no reflection on your but on them entirely, they are criticizing you for what they lack.

Accept the peace and what is of the now and that way you can be happy with the later. Focus on the progress you make not perfection. See how far you’ve come not where you need to be. Stop hating yourself and degrading yourself because it won’t make it better. Instead realize you are enough just as you are and learning to practice self-love more and more every day will get you further than being nasty to yourself.

Another Why

As Twin Flames we can feel as though we are not enough when our sleeper shows little interest in us, they run away from you so therefore you are not good enough for them, well that is not the case, in fact you are too good and it is that fear that makes them leave, they do not believe that someone as perfect as you can truly love them.

Have a read over the blog I wrote on the searching phase, to show you what I mean by that!

http://www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/the-searching-phase

Remember

Some other things to remember are:

There is more right than wrong with you.
Your mind can be a very good liar.
You are deserving of this love.
Focus on how far you have come instead of how far you have to go.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! FREE YOURSELF ~ Carol Mary 2017

Moon Magic

November 26th 2017 is the first quarter moon phase. It is a time to be more positive and have a moving forward attitude. This bodes well for us twin flames. How?

We are going to be brought into a phase of more understanding this week, we will begin to see more clearly why our twin flame does the things they do, a putting yourself into their shoes moment. We will also want to explore the relationship more deeply.

It is about planting seeds for the dreams you desire to come true, which is fitting for the first quarter moon phase. So what are your BIG goals and dreams? It doesn’t matter if you don’t know the HOW or any of the details. The fact of the matter is it is the time to get those things down on paper and share it with the universe and even though you cannot see it you still MUST BELIEVE it is already in your life as you desire to live it.

Union Plan

I was asked this week, how do you plan for union, well there is that old saying the best laid plans go to waste, this is especially true when it comes to twin flames, so what do you do? You work towards union, you believe that you can get to union and you know that without doubt this man or woman is the one for you and there is nothing great enough to hold you apart.

So instead of planning your union, have a plan of action to get you closer to union? Ask yourself these questions:

Am I ready to unite?
Do I trust my twin flame?
Do I understand my twin flame?
Do I show my twin flame and others in my life unconditional love?
Do I have faith it will all work out?
Am I working on become a better version of me?
Have I healed from past hurts?
Have I offered forgiveness?
Am I a patient person?
Do I now have the strength it takes to get to union?
Do I love myself?

If you have more no’s than yes’s we need to talk!!

Letter Writing

Another really great way to aid in your union is to ask the universe to help you. A good way to do this is to write a letter, this letter will need to contain your wishes for the future with your twin flame. Show the universe that you are serious about getting to union.

You also need to show that you are loyal to your twin in your thoughts and in your dealings with others. This will also let the universe know that you are ready and seriously wish to be in union with your twin flame and begin your mission.

Consultation Time??

This being said I know how difficult it can be to keep one’s hopes up, this is something I know many of you struggle with daily. You are working, you are waiting and you are still getting nothing. Are you working on the right things? Do you know what is holding you both back from union? Are there issues that you are not able to see? Are you too close to the situation to be objective? May I suggest a consultation with myself Carol Mary, for just $150 you will know what direction to go in, know what you need to work on and feel more confident on your road to reunion. Book one today.

I am going to have a second blog out this week, this one is some questions that I have been asked in relation to the sleeper (runner) twin flame, keep an eye out for that one it promises to be very informative. If you have any question that you would like to ask about your sleeper please send them along to reuintingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com or use the contact me form!!

Twin Flame Tip ~ Number 37

Have a watch of this week’s twin flame tip, keeping yourself informed is half the battle.

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

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Fanning The Flames Volume 8.2

11/18/2017

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Why Your Mirror Has 2
But
Similar Faces!

Hi All,

How To Become An Effective Twin Flame Leader

For many years the more awakened twin flame was most often referred to as the “chaser” Well it seems to me that when you think about the word chaser, it means to run after or some might even say stalk, that is not truly what we do, we lead, we show our twin flame the way. We do not run after him/her so I felt the word leader was more appropriate here. If you understand the dynamics of a twin flame relationship you will totally get what I mean here.

“ A leader twin flame does know that they want to get to union, they are unfaltering in getting there, they never give up. With strength and courage they show the way” ~ Carol Mary

I was asked a question last week ~ “ How do I lead my twin flame to union?”

I would like to answer that for you here, as will all good leaders a positive example is a must. Treating your twin flame with respect is of the utmost importance and that is not just in person but when they are not in your company either, name calling, putting them down because of the things that they do is unacceptable, a true leader will try to figure out why they do what they do and will show loyalty and understanding. Last week I spoke about loyalty but how many of you understood that this loyalty was not just with your body but with your mind also?

Think about how you want to be treated, is there things that you do that you do not want others especially your twin flame to do to you or towards you? If yes you need to take care of that and quit doing it. Being a twin flame leader is not easy there is a lot thrown at you, that you will not have any idea how to deal with, you will want to give up and walk away but when you do that you are allowing your twin flame to want to do the same. So instead of feeling this way figure out the issues that stand between you and start work on yourself as you both share a soul this will in turn help him/her. This is where you can start leading the way.

You should always be honest with yourself firstly then secondly with your twin flame, the more honest and critical you are, the more you will discover about the both of you. Then you can begin to learn those valuable lessons that will help you get to union. I know many do not feel it should be referred to as lessons but personally I do simply because how else do you become the best version of yourself if you do not learn. Do you know when a lesson is being presented to you? Or are you one of those twin flames who says why me?

Maintaining a positive attitude is so crucial on this journey, stop looking at your twin flames past mistakes instead ask yourself what did I learn from that, forgive and move forward. Always move forward, do not live in the past, that is not who you are anymore.
There are so many other things that you can do to show that you are an effective leader twin flame, I will set some of these things out for you below:

Showing strength in the face of adversary.
Integrity.
Being confident in who you are.
Keeping your twin flames secrets, being a confidant.
Planning well for your union.
Focusing on your union and know it is coming.
Co-operate where possible.
Be committed to getting to union.

There is a lot for you to think about there and the last point I have is, effective communication, do you know how to communicate with your twin flame, so that you can learn to understand them and have them come to you and trust that you can help? I will discuss this next week.

“The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves.” ~ Ray Kroc

The Mirror With 2 Similar Faces

Something to think about, are things like blame and the negativity related to how you act and think and how those energies that you project towards your twin flame. What it can do and usually does to your connection with them, not just from a physical human aspect but also how it affects your souls and their energy together. So I would like for you to think of it this way regarding different situations in this arena of how these energies are really the same thing just 2 different sides of the same mirror.

Blame is essentially laying guilt or trying to make a person feel guilty for their actions because you took it as a personal attack against you. Now I can hear you say well of course they meant to do this or that because I am their twin flame and they want to hurt me so I will go away and leave them alone. This is not true by any means. Many times our twin flame does things simply for not knowing any better and not having the information or knowledge of making better decisions or essentially acting on impulse because it’s all they know and it’s also because they don’t know what this twin flame thing is and so how could you take this action or such personally.

So let’s talk about what blame is and what it actually means for you.. The person doing the blaming as I said it’s part of the mirror with 2 but similar faces. Blame is really a cover up for your true feelings of not feeling worthy or feeling inadequate in some way. So to cover up the hurt or the feeling of lack of love and worthiness for yourself you send out blame.. Thinking in a sense that will make you feel better and that your twin flame will “pay” for what they did.

Really it’s you who’s going to pay, how? Because you haven’t seen the lesson in this situation and what it was trying to teach you about yourself. So how do you resolve this?

Simply quit doing that!!

Winter Warnings

Well as we head towards winter, the skies darken earlier and in many cases so does our energetic vibration due to shifting back to standard time, and not getting enough sunlight (If you’re in the Northern Hemisphere, that is) At this time of year usually most people stay shut inside and that leads to depression and most likely solitude and until the holidays come we don’t realize how much of a rut we get ourselves in. The New Moon on November 18th is an opportunity to change that and work with aspects of the moon’s energy.

Moon Magic

The New Moon will tend to be predominantly inclined to show the weaker side of your character like jealousy, control and manipulation, also things such as being intolerant of others, saying things that may come across as sarcastic, rude or just plain mean when that isn’t who you really are. Then we will have the strength of your more positive aspects shine here like determination, creativity and taking action, so if you are willing to be the effective leader twin flame you can also harness the desire to push forward to your goals and gain success in what you aim to do plus take care of your place in this world, your life in other words and create change. This being said it is the yin and yang effect, so what I am seeing is that one of you will show the weaker side the other the stronger, which will you be?.

Disharmony Reigns Supreme

There are some energies at play which are being referred to as being in detriment. This means trouble, delay and disappointment in relationships due to jealousy and following just getting needs met and being demanding of security and trying to force things to be just so and happen just right.

Karmic Relationship Explosions

These detrimental energies can and will affect friendships in general from a social aspect and also those friends who don’t have such a great reputation - Failure and troubles abound so just go easy and don’t be demanding or try to show off or be arrogant with others or try to be as if you are more than they are.

Be Warned

Now I realize some of you may be in union with your twin flame, forewarned is forearmed, meaning now that you know what could be coming down the pike energy wise.. Be smart about how you handle yourself around each other right now and do your best to not try to fall into the trap of past relationship patterns of neediness, and all those 3D conditional love aspects for we are better than that! This can lead to unnecessary arguments and a very unhappy pair of twin flames.

Gratitude

This week Americans celebrate Thanksgiving, are you grateful for your twin flame? Yes, no, yes no, always the push and pull. How many times have you stopped to thank the universe for sending you this great love or do you wish that you had never met your twin flame because you are in pain, they have hurt you and yes that hurt can affect you deeply, but on Thursday, I want you to give thanks, be grateful for the love you share and acknowledge what a great love it is.

“Feeling gratitude and not expressing it is like wrapping a present and not giving it.”~ William Arthur Ward

Money Matters

There is also influences which are all about money and stability. What this means is that some of you will start to find yourself in a better position financially. While I generally do not mention monetary matters in my blogs, this is going to be a powerful authority. So watch out for that.

That is about it for this week readers, with the exception of your guides message!

Guides Message

“What are you doing sitting around wallowing in self pity, that does not a leader make you. Quit your crap, pick yourself up, dust yourself off and learn your lesson, then move forward and become one with your twin flame, you stop the self pity, they will stop theirs. Easy as that”

Have a great week ahead one and all. Happy Thanksgiving to those who celebrate.

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

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Fanning The Flames 8.1

11/11/2017

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Oh the Magic! 11/11/17 & More!

Hi All,

This week has been trying to say the least, I hear you say, tell me about it, I need to know when this will stop, because I do not want to feel this way anymore. Does life for a twin flame get better than the turmoil you feel before getting to a state of peace in union.

Advice

The first thing I will say on this it does not get better right away when you do get to union, there is no antidote, but there is answers that need to be found. How you find them is entirely up to you. I know personally I have done many of this the hard way, pushed against his pull and vice versa.

My advice to the leader twin flame would be: take some of what happens in your stride, do not dwell on it, do not overthink, however there is a lesson in it for you, perhaps you will know what it is without having to dig to deep, but if you do not, go ahead and send me an email to reunitingcomesfromwithin@gmail.com

A Magically Magical Life

Magic! Essentially it really is all around us only if we are aware. The beauty of clouds in the sky forming images in our minds, songs on the radio, ads or shows on tv, conversations with others, things that make you happy. All bring to us daily magic of our connection to the universe and for many of us that of our twin flame as well. I am going to talk with you a bit today on the magic of November 11 - 11/11, what it means not only for you as part of your personal spiritual development but as well for those on the twin flame journey. I will also talk about the moon phase which is also on this day. Third/last quarter phase which was yesterday the 10th but it has only aided with building the energies up for us.

It’s All About 11

Every year on November 11th there is a portal the energy for it begins October 10th as we know that is a magical number 10/10 as well. The 1 energy is highlighted - meaning it’s all about our personal development, both spiritually and in this physical life as well - working towards the accomplishment of goals you have set for yourself both spiritually and otherwise.

Today, November 11th amplifies as you have the double one energy plus 11 is a master number. This particular November 11th has other significance to me. We are all being shown that it is now time to tap into our guidance and harness that for our own greater good and find ways to use it to inspire others. So this portal 11/11/2017 is opening now for us to step into the energy of 2018 earlier and use it to our advantage as Being that 2018 is actually an 11 year. The 11:11 gateway portal is finally fully open and it is going to bring with it some huge twists, turns and changes for you all. I for one am excited about this.

Talk To Me The Right Way

The first thing that will be brought to the forefront is communication, this does not necessarily have to be a bad thing as I do feel it will iron out more than a few issues. This communication can come in any form to you, perhaps it will be that long awaited email, through song and music or simply by finally seeing your twin flame after months or even years of separation. Now when I said it does not necessarily have to be a bad thing, it did not mean it was going to be all good either, factor dependent, you may enter separation, there may be a time where you will not want to talk to your twin flame, perhaps a period where you will both play the blame game as you go along with your life. So much can and will happen. Learning to cope will help greatly here, learning more effective ways to communicate with your twin flame is paramount and lastly figure out how what has happened can bring you to being closer to the best version of yourself.

For those of you on the journey now who may have not met or connected with your twin flame in the physical, meaning met face to face, this portal is allowing for you to harness the ability to use your telepathy and connect with them from a soul level, another great way of communicating!!

Also as it is leading into 2018 this means for some of you that union indeed is possible next year if you listen to me and my guidance, along with yours, your twin flames wants and needs.

Is Loyalty Lost?

Over the next week your loyalty is going to be tried and tested, in all manner of ways. I do find that not many are as loyal as they claim to be to their Twin Flame. I know that at times I for one have wanted to walk away and that right there is the type of loyalty I am talking about. I do get it however, you are giving this relationship your all and you are seeing little in return, emails and texts go unanswered, your kindness forgotten but the biggest betrayal of all I am seeing more and more so lately and that is running your twin flame down. Saying that they are weak, they will never man or woman up. They know my feelings but they do not give a flying f$@k anyway. Why should I do all of this and have them do not one thing for me.

You want to know why?? It is because you are not doing it. If you were you would be so much closer to union. I have said this so many times before, it starts and ends with the leader twin flame, so if you are not being loyal to them, you can be damn sure they are not going to be loyal to you. Wake up, see what is going on. Stop blaming everyone else for your issues. Get off your ass and work on you, look at your ideals, look at how you have treated your twin flame.

The next huge issue that is going to surface in the next 11 or so days is where you may want to begin to plan your future life, do not make the same mistake I am reading about everyday and that is discount the things that your twin flame will want before you have even discussed it with them. Let’s say, you want to live in Ireland and your twin flame wants to live in France. You automatically say oh hell no, I am not going to live there, where is the love without condition there, it seems as though you have already decided before the opportunity was there to even discuss. My advice do not do that!! Do not future plan your life, a good friend of mine once did that, she decided that she was going to have 6 children, her first was to be a girl and she wanted to be married by 28 with her own business. She had her wedding, she was pregnant with her first child, yes a girl, she died one month before her daughter was born, both of them taken, so what I say to plans always has been, the best laid ones go to waste.

Choose Your Moods Carefully

So for the next month, do not play, go and live in the now, notice the little things, appreciate the gift of life that you have and choose to be happy. When you do this your twin flame will feel happier and you two will become closer to each other.

Moral of that above is you are connected on the highest of levels, when you are down, they are, when it all feels hopeless they feel hopeless, when you are happy, they are happy, when you become content with what you have in life, they will too. It’s all about keeping that energy balanced.

For those who have difficulties accepting the faults and behaviors of your twin flame, this is also because these things are being mirrored to you, so if they are mistreating you, how are you mistreating yourself? Be honest! Do you beat yourself up over stupid silly little things, and call yourself negative things or think negative things about who you are and the actions and things you do in life or such? Think about that???!!! Where does that come from?

If you recall last week’s blog where I talked about programming and how you were raised to believe or not believe in yourself or to not love yourself or whatever the case is. Yes I know we asked for these experiences before we came here as humans but this energy of 11/11 is about honoring who you are as a spiritual being which is perfect so we had these lessons so we could grow! Don’t wallow in self pity or lack of love for yourself. You can’t have others love you including your twin flame by being a negative Nelly, it is up to you to find ways to change that!

Activity For You!

I’d like to give you an exercise to try. As we are all aware we are energy, and everything is connected and so with that said I’d like to share with you something that you can try to not only connect to your higher self but also send messages to your twin flame’s higher self.

First, get quiet: No this isn’t meditation, though you can do that for a few minutes if you like before hand to settle yourself.

Secondly, Rub your hands together until warm then hold them about four to six inches apart. Do you feel pressure between them? If so, woohoo, you’ve created an energy bubble. This is essentially part of your auric field that you have harnessed. Think of it as an energy crystal ball but not to see the future more to transmit messages to the universe or to your twin flame.

Thirdly, into that energy bubble put your thoughts into it of what you want to know from the universe. Form the question appropriately, such as What is it that I need to know to guide my day? What is for my highest and best good to know or do today?

Or

If you wish to send a message to your twin flame. Just by thinking of them you can connect to their higher self and you can send them a message and with your higher self get a response back. The first thing that comes to mind is usually your higher self responding to what you’ve sent out.

I would suggest please send loving thoughts and messages to your twin even if you’re upset with them. If you are upset with them, this will be to your detriment and can actually push them away when you wish to bring them closer.

Being that 2018 is actually an 11 year !! (yes it carries the 2 energy as well and I’ll get into that later in December as we approach 2018)

11/11 Moon Magic

The moon is now in it’s 3rd/Last quarter. This is about midway through its waning phase as we lead into what is called the Dark/Balsamic phase. Now is the time to look over and assess what has been going on since the last new moon since October 19th and see where we are and how far we’ve come and what needs to change and shift before the next new moon on November 18th where we can begin to create again and work on achieving goals. So take a break after this week, chill out, have some fun.. Relax. This is also the time where we are dealing with internal (emotional) challenges and with the Sun being in Scorpio this is about life, death, rebirth. What can you leave behind and are willing to let go of in order to be reborn and renewed?

The sign this phase is in is Leo. Leo moons are about refusing to be limited. No limits to your ideas, dreams and being full of exuberant joy at seeing them come to fruition. Meaning no narrow minded focus. It is not just about union, it is about you and your life before union and also after it! No matter how small or how big you dream! Affectionate and outgoing are words resonating with this energy so perfect with this 11/11 gateway for twin flames! Dreaming of union? This can no longer be a mere wish anymore. Whether that is your union or your big goal of creating the wonderful life you have for yourself, whatever that may be. Know that you are the master of your own destiny, have faith, trust, believe and you can and will reap the rewards.

Guides Message

“It is here, it is here, time to reflect on who you are, time to learn how you will grow, time to know that life is about to take you where you need to go! Show your love to others, show it, work hard and always remember that where you are in life right now, while it is true time, you will see your life mapped out before you, now go and take advantage of this energy.”

Check out this week's twin flame tip below!! Remember learn as we go along!!

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

©Carol Mary 2017. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner.

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