Reuniting Comes From Within

Fanning The Flames 8.3

11/25/2017

You Are Enough!!

Hi All,

I was going to call this, how do you know you are enough but I changed my mind because I know that you are enough, now it is your turn to know that you are.

So how do you know you are enough? This is a matter that really covers issues like self worth, self esteem, personal empowerment, and judgement on yourself. Many times we feel we are NOT “good enough”. What does that really mean anyhow and where does that come from? Are you being too hard on yourself?

Why

Not feeling “good enough” stems from comparing yourself and your life, your looks and so forth to others and somehow convincing yourself you don’t measure up or don’t equal someone else’s accomplishments or whatever it may be. That is an amazing amount of pressure on your heart emotionally, on your mind, and also spiritually, not to mention negative and allowing more negativity to permeate you and rev up your inner critic and your negative Nelly personna, not to mention the green eyed monster of envy and jealousy. Rather a lot to comprehend isn’t it? I am sure you can think of many situations you do this, now and have in the past. While it isn’t an easy “habit” to stop, I’ll be honest.. YOU HAVE TO! If you ever expect to improve your life.

The How To

So where to begin to change this behavior? While I can’t give you specific information as each and everyone one of you are different what I can tell you is:

Our minds do this “programming” to us. If you remind yourself over and over about all the good things you like AND LOVE about yourself and I mean that.. From the small things to the big things you love about YOU, I can tell you that you’ll begin to let go of all this and realize you are definitely WORTHY and GOOD ENOUGH!! Remember to love who you are as you are. Love yourself because you will need it most when you think you need it the least.

Start your day with looking in the mirror and fill your heart with love and appreciation of you as you are and say things like that to yourself in the mirror.

Say to yourself: (Your Name) I love you I really love you because you are so _____ , you have such pretty _____ and so on. In fact write out what you want to say to yourself and tape it to the wall near your mirror or on the mirror so you can see it as you read it.

Do not let the negative mind thing and the criticism come into play! Do not believe it if it does - to be honest that is your arrogant ego doing it! If someone else in your life puts you down please always remember that is no reflection on your but on them entirely, they are criticizing you for what they lack.

Accept the peace and what is of the now and that way you can be happy with the later. Focus on the progress you make not perfection. See how far you’ve come not where you need to be. Stop hating yourself and degrading yourself because it won’t make it better. Instead realize you are enough just as you are and learning to practice self-love more and more every day will get you further than being nasty to yourself.

Another Why

As Twin Flames we can feel as though we are not enough when our sleeper shows little interest in us, they run away from you so therefore you are not good enough for them, well that is not the case, in fact you are too good and it is that fear that makes them leave, they do not believe that someone as perfect as you can truly love them.

Have a read over the blog I wrote on the searching phase, to show you what I mean by that!

http://www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/the-searching-phase

Remember

Some other things to remember are:

There is more right than wrong with you.
Your mind can be a very good liar.
You are deserving of this love.
Focus on how far you have come instead of how far you have to go.

YOU ARE ENOUGH!!! FREE YOURSELF ~ Carol Mary 2017

Twin Flame Tip ~ Number 37

Have a watch of this week’s twin flame tip, keeping yourself informed is half the battle.

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

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Fanning The Flames Volume 8.2

11/18/2017

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Why Your Mirror Has 2
But
Similar Faces!

Hi All,

How To Become An Effective Twin Flame Leader

For many years the more awakened twin flame was most often referred to as the “chaser” Well it seems to me that when you think about the word chaser, it means to run after or some might even say stalk, that is not truly what we do, we lead, we show our twin flame the way. We do not run after him/her so I felt the word leader was more appropriate here. If you understand the dynamics of a twin flame relationship you will totally get what I mean here.

“ A leader twin flame does know that they want to get to union, they are unfaltering in getting there, they never give up. With strength and courage they show the way” ~ Carol Mary

I was asked a question last week ~ “ How do I lead my twin flame to union?”

I would like to answer that for you here, as will all good leaders a positive example is a must. Treating your twin flame with respect is of the utmost importance and that is not just in person but when they are not in your company either, name calling, putting them down because of the things that they do is unacceptable, a true leader will try to figure out why they do what they do and will show loyalty and understanding. Last week I spoke about loyalty but how many of you understood that this loyalty was not just with your body but with your mind also?

Think about how you want to be treated, is there things that you do that you do not want others especially your twin flame to do to you or towards you? If yes you need to take care of that and quit doing it. Being a twin flame leader is not easy there is a lot thrown at you, that you will not have any idea how to deal with, you will want to give up and walk away but when you do that you are allowing your twin flame to want to do the same. So instead of feeling this way figure out the issues that stand between you and start work on yourself as you both share a soul this will in turn help him/her. This is where you can start leading the way.

You should always be honest with yourself firstly then secondly with your twin flame, the more honest and critical you are, the more you will discover about the both of you. Then you can begin to learn those valuable lessons that will help you get to union. I know many do not feel it should be referred to as lessons but personally I do simply because how else do you become the best version of yourself if you do not learn. Do you know when a lesson is being presented to you? Or are you one of those twin flames who says why me?

Maintaining a positive attitude is so crucial on this journey, stop looking at your twin flames past mistakes instead ask yourself what did I learn from that, forgive and move forward. Always move forward, do not live in the past, that is not who you are anymore.
There are so many other things that you can do to show that you are an effective leader twin flame, I will set some of these things out for you below:

Showing strength in the face of adversary.
Integrity.
Being confident in who you are.
Keeping your twin flames secrets, being a confidant.
Planning well for your union.
Focusing on your union and know it is coming.
Co-operate where possible.
Be committed to getting to union.

There is a lot for you to think about there and the last point I have is, effective communication, do you know how to communicate with your twin flame, so that you can learn to understand them and have them come to you and trust that you can help? I will discuss this next week.

“The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves.” ~ Ray Kroc

The Mirror With 2 Similar Faces

Something to think about, are things like blame and the negativity related to how you act and think and how those energies that you project towards your twin flame. What it can do and usually does to your connection with them, not just from a physical human aspect but also how it affects your souls and their energy together. So I would like for you to think of it this way regarding different situations in this arena of how these energies are really the same thing just 2 different sides of the same mirror.

Blame is essentially laying guilt or trying to make a person feel guilty for their actions because you took it as a personal attack against you. Now I can hear you say well of course they meant to do this or that because I am their twin flame and they want to hurt me so I will go away and leave them alone. This is not true by any means. Many times our twin flame does things simply for not knowing any better and not having the information or knowledge of making better decisions or essentially acting on impulse because it’s all they know and it’s also because they don’t know what this twin flame thing is and so how could you take this action or such personally.

So let’s talk about what blame is and what it actually means for you.. The person doing the blaming as I said it’s part of the mirror with 2 but similar faces. Blame is really a cover up for your true feelings of not feeling worthy or feeling inadequate in some way. So to cover up the hurt or the feeling of lack of love and worthiness for yourself you send out blame.. Thinking in a sense that will make you feel better and that your twin flame will “pay” for what they did.

Really it’s you who’s going to pay, how? Because you haven’t seen the lesson in this situation and what it was trying to teach you about yourself. So how do you resolve this?

Simply quit doing that!!

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

©Carol Mary 2017. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner.

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Fanning The Flames Volume 8.1

11/4/2017

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Breaking Patterns! Shift Your Life’s Dynamic

Hi All,

November is finally here, this has been a long awaited month for me, I am not sure about you but if you are a twin flame you will be welcoming this energy with open arms and tonight’s full moon is no exception.

Maintaining A Positive Attitude

Last week, we spoke about self respect, this week I am going to look at maintaining a positive attitude on this journey. I have noticed that there is so many of you just ready to give up, because you have just hit too many stumbling blocks.How do you prevent these feelings from coming up to the surface and consuming you?

How about firstly you choose to be happy. It can be as simple as telling yourself everyday, that you are going to be happy and when negative thoughts enter your mind, just refuse to look at them, doing your best to substitute them with happy thoughts.

Looking at the bright side of life may not always be as easy as saying it however but I am sure if you think about it you can find one good thing in your life everyday to be thankful for. . It's a matter of choice and repeated attempts, by repeated attempts I mean, if you are having a bad day, then know it is just one day and do not take the negativity into a new day with you.

It’s All about Choices

Choose to be optimistic, think about how you can find a way to make a situation better, instead of just giving up and saying, there is no way it can be done, like that old saying, “Instead of saying why me, say try me. Know that you have got this, there is nothing that can bring you down. Having faith in yourself is very important. Also believe that the universe can help you.

Find reasons to smile more often, even the little things in life can make you happy, I find much of my happiness on the faces of my children, if they are smiling, I am smiling. You can find reasons to also, if you search for them. Try and make friends with other people who are happy. Do not allow the negativity of others to bring you down.

Each morning when you wake, visualize how you would like your day to be, the things that you would like to happen, keep your focus on this instead of what you don't want. Learn to master your thoughts and know that you hold the key to your destiny. It always starts with you!!

Goals

Did you make a list of goals and intentions at the beginning of the year, if yes, how far have you come with these? Have you everything that you wanted to accomplish done or is that list that you wrote with good intention and just forgot about? Are you a doer or someone who sits and waits for others to do things for you.

What I Overheard

I was recently listening to a conversation that two ladies were having about their ex husbands, one was sitting there whining about how the kids were going to school in his district and how he won’t drive over to meet her as she was not allowed on their property, so her friend asked her the question, if you had full custody would you be able to get the kids to school, her answer was no because he would not come and met her halfway. Is this you, if so WAKE UP, no one is going to carry you through life, you have got to stand up and do things for yourself. While there is no shame is asking for help or having someone guide you, know that you must work too.

Breaking Patterns

Furthermore, I also wish to talk to you about breaking patterns. We really all have a lot of them that keep us trapped in thoughts, and actions and we wonder sometimes why we do these things when we look back at how we have lived our life. By looking at some of the patterns in our lives which may not have been positive and be willing to change them, it can shift our lives dramatically either in small ways leading to bigger changes or a drastic change that shifts our perspective and allows us to create new healthier patterns to create a new life in wherever we’re focusing that attention.

How do these patterns begin? The ones that seem to cripple us into habits that we repeatedly do over and over again and sometimes more often than not mindlessly or without actually thinking and realizing what we are doing and why we do it. Something we do not even take into account is our upbringing and the conditioning from those around us from the time we were very young.

Habits

The way I see it is this, many habits and things that we do now as adults were formed when we were very young, from birth to around the time we turned 8, so we act as though we are on autopilot, from the foods we eat to the thoughts we have about ourselves and others, Someones we act on, came from what we heard and were told from our parents and other adults in our lives, plus yes, the tv, radio and the things we read. These subtle and sometimes direct influences from words, and actions and such we see and are told formed who we are. Many times creating detrimental patterns that result in low self-esteem, low self-worth, lack of self-love and the ability to have compassion for ourselves.

What we don’t realize as adults until someone points it out to us, is that we can change this “programming” because that is essentially what is. From what we did from work or as a career choice, whether we went to university or not, whether we got married or didn’t etc, right down to how we deal with others and how we feel about life and ourselves. Much of where we are right now is as a result of what happened during our early childhood. If you are truly willing to review your upbringing with upright honesty and see what patterns were created and how they have you where they are, what they trigger in you and make the conscious decision to change it you can. These things molded us into who we were as teens and young adults, much of the time without us realizing it until much later in life. Each thing leading to the next in succession throughout our lives in almost every area of it.

This is part of your journey as a twin flame as well. We agreed to these situations before we became human in this life. It is what your souls asked for in order for you to learn to become the best version of yourself.

Time to be honest with yourself

So this week I would like you to be honest with yourself and really look at your life and the things that have happened, what you’ve done, what decisions you made etc. Now of course we are not 100% responsible for all of this because the words, thoughts, actions we have influence others in our lives and their words, thoughts, actions are reactions to what we do, say and think. Write down any of the things you feel that you have learnt as a child that you have carried into your relationships and way of life today. We will figure out how to work on these next week. I expect to see lots of completed lists!!!

“Persistence. Perfection. Patience. Power. Prioritize your passion. It keeps you sane.”
― Criss Jami, Killosophy

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary

Please do not hesitate to contact me for more help with any of the above or any of my other blogs, I always strive to answer every email, direct message or Facebook inbox.

Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary

Much Love

Carol Mary xx

©Carol Mary 2017. ©Reuniting comes from within All Rights Reserved. No part of copyrighted material may be used, altered or copied in any way without the express written permission of the copyright owner

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Fanning The Flames 8.3

You Are Enough!!

Fanning The Flames Volume 8.2

Why Your Mirror Has 2
But
Similar Faces!

Fanning The Flames Volume 8.1

Breaking Patterns! Shift Your Life’s Dynamic

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