Fanning The Flames ~ Vol 1.1.23

Twin Flame Burnout

Hi All

Today I am going to talk about Twin Flame burnout. This situation is real and I believe it affects many Twin Flames all over the world. I will explain what it is and how it can affect you. Most importantly what you can do if this happens with you and how to prevent it. 

Burnout is a form of exhaustion by feeling constantly overwhelmed from being on a Twin Flame journey. It is a state of physical and emotional exhaustion from dealing with the constant ups and downs from this type of relationship. Burnout can really affect your physical and mental health. 

This can happen to anyone at any point or other on your journey. It mostly happens when you become hyper focused on your Twin Flame, your journey and all that involves. You forget to take a step back and when you forget to take that step back that is the exact point that burnout happens. 

Burnout stops you from being productive not only on your Twin Flame journey but in your daily life. It will reduce your energy and can make you feel hopeless, cynical and resentful. I have seen this quite often through the course of my work. 

The effects of this can be quite life altering. It can and will affect your home and social life. It can change you as a person and into someone that you do not want to be or recognize. 

I have seen many cases of this and sadly the person who is suffering from burnout does not always realize what they are doing at the time. It oftentimes manifests itself with total resentment towards the person they are working with to help them move forward on their journey. They blame their Twin Flame, blame their coach, blame everyone and anyone and are not willing to look at themselves. Then the social media posts about the person that they are working with and how they have failed them. When usually that is not the case in fact you are suffering from burnout and that will not stop until it is addressed. Just one example for you! 

Signs & Symptoms 

• Excessive stress
• Sadness 
• Anger 
• Irritability
• Alienation from activities
• Exhaustion
• Fatigue 
• Insomnia 
• Feeling sick often
• Alcohol or substance abuse
• Anxiety
• Obsessed with problems
• Negativity 
• Cynical attitude
• Unusual aggressive behavior
• Denial of problems
• Behavioral changes
• Neglect of personal needs

The Why

This can sometimes begin because you feel that you have a lack of control in your life. With this journey there is no way of knowing what is going to happen and the universe does not hold back on throwing those punches. So it may seem as though things are always spiraling and you have no way to stop that or even prevent it from happening.

Unclear or unrealistic expectations are a huge factor in this. This relationship can be portrayed as one of the most romantic experiences of your life. Your one true love. The person who was created just for you. However that reality is wrapped up in a bow of many harsh life lessons. So you can come crashing down from all of this. 

When our energies are not balanced or not in alignment this can cause you to not see a clear picture on what is happening. So let’s say you are trying to portray yourself as an awakened individual however you are not acting that way. This energy imbalance will cause ripples in your life and bring you to a state of  burnout and displaying the above symptoms. 

One of the main causes of burnout can be because you feel you have a lack of support in your life. The Twin Flame journey is one where support can be absent because the people in your life do not understand why you would want to pursue someone who seems to be not returning the effort you are putting in. This can cause you to doubt yourself and your strengths. 

Three Types of Burnout

Overload ~ this is when you become frantic in your pursuit of your Twin Flame and having a successful relationship with them. You are not thinking about the consequences of your actions. 

Under Challenged ~ this is when you start to feel unappreciated and basically give up. So you avoid your responsibilities and begin to stunt your own growth. Why should I do anything if they are not. You really are hurting yourself at this point. 

Neglect ~ this is part of feeling helpless. When things are not going right. When you feel not good enough and doubt yourself. You basically have imposter syndrome. 

What To Do About It

Evaluate your options ~ start with taking a long hard look at yourself and understand that you are suffering from burnout. Then and only then can you look at your options for getting help and helping yourself to feel better. 

Seek Support ~ connect with other Twin Flames helping yourself to create a network of like minded friends. However it is important to be mindful of the negative nellies (the ones who will bring you down). 

Connect with a Relationship Coach ~ one who understands Twin Flames. Ask that question before scheduling an appointment. 

Sleep Routine ~ establish a regular sleeping pattern. Avoid use of electronics before bed. Maybe read a book or unwind with some yoga or relaxation techniques. it is alright to have a rest every now and again. 

Mindfulness ~  this is where you bring your mind into the present. This means that your mind is fully attentive to what is happening and you are living in the moment. 

Remain fluid ~ this means that you realize that things can happen that will affect you and your journey but you are learning to be more resilient. Learning to expect the unexpected. 

Self Care ~ a super important one. Not forgetting yourself and doing one thing each day that will make you feel better about being you. 

Have a read of this blog to help yourself with some self care today: 
https://www.reunitingcomesfromwithin.com/carolmaryblog/fanning-the-flames-vol-1122021


A point to note:
The Twin Flame journey is one of self exploration and discovery. The discovery of your true strength and your life purpose. When you make it all about your Twin Flame what they are or are not doing. You really are missing the true point.

Please feel free to contact me about life or relationship coaching for Twin Flames. 

Much Love 

Carol Mary

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