For many years the more awakened twin flame was most often referred to as the “chaser” Well it seems to me that when you think about the word chaser, it means to run after or some might even say stalk, that is not truly what we do, we lead, we show our twin flame the way. We do not run after him/her so I felt the word leader was more appropriate here. If you understand the dynamics of a twin flame relationship you will totally get what I mean here.
“ A leader twin flame does know that they want to get to union, they are unfaltering in getting there, they never give up. With strength and courage they show the way” ~ Carol Mary
I was asked a question last week ~ “ How do I lead my twin flame to union?”
I would like to answer that for you here, as will all good leaders a positive example is a must. Treating your twin flame with respect is of the utmost importance and that is not just in person but when they are not in your company either, name calling, putting them down because of the things that they do is unacceptable, a true leader will try to figure out why they do what they do and will show loyalty and understanding. Last week I spoke about loyalty but how many of you understood that this loyalty was not just with your body but with your mind also?
Think about how you want to be treated, is there things that you do that you do not want others especially your twin flame to do to you or towards you? If yes you need to take care of that and quit doing it. Being a twin flame leader is not easy there is a lot thrown at you, that you will not have any idea how to deal with, you will want to give up and walk away but when you do that you are allowing your twin flame to want to do the same. So instead of feeling this way figure out the issues that stand between you and start work on yourself as you both share a soul this will in turn help him/her. This is where you can start leading the way.
You should always be honest with yourself firstly then secondly with your twin flame, the more honest and critical you are, the more you will discover about the both of you. Then you can begin to learn those valuable lessons that will help you get to union. I know many do not feel it should be referred to as lessons but personally I do simply because how else do you become the best version of yourself if you do not learn. Do you know when a lesson is being presented to you? Or are you one of those twin flames who says why me?
Maintaining a positive attitude is so crucial on this journey, stop looking at your twin flames past mistakes instead ask yourself what did I learn from that, forgive and move forward. Always move forward, do not live in the past, that is not who you are anymore. There are so many other things that you can do to show that you are an effective leader twin flame, I will set some of these things out for you below:
Showing strength in the face of adversary.
Being confident in who you are.
Keeping your twin flames secrets, being a confidant.
Planning well for your union.
Focusing on your union and know it is coming.
Co-operate where possible.
Be committed to getting to union.
There is a lot for you to think about there and the last point I have is, effective communication, do you know how to communicate with your twin flame, so that you can learn to understand them and have them come to you and trust that you can help? I will discuss this next week.
“The quality of a leader is reflected in the standards they set for themselves.” ~ Ray Kroc
The Mirror With 2 Similar Faces
Something to think about, are things like blame and the negativity related to how you act and think and how those energies that you project towards your twin flame. What it can do and usually does to your connection with them, not just from a physical human aspect but also how it affects your souls and their energy together. So I would like for you to think of it this way regarding different situations in this arena of how these energies are really the same thing just 2 different sides of the same mirror.
Blame is essentially laying guilt or trying to make a person feel guilty for their actions because you took it as a personal attack against you. Now I can hear you say well of course they meant to do this or that because I am their twin flame and they want to hurt me so I will go away and leave them alone.This is not true by any means. Many times our twin flame does things simply for not knowing any better and not having the information or knowledge of making better decisions or essentially acting on impulse because it’s all they know and it’s also because they don’t know what this twin flame thing is and so how could you take this action or such personally.
So let’s talk about what blame is and what it actually means for you.. The person doing the blaming as I said it’s part of the mirror with 2 but similar faces. Blame is really a cover up for your true feelings of not feeling worthy or feeling inadequate in some way. So to cover up the hurt or the feeling of lack of love and worthiness for yourself you send out blame.. Thinking in a sense that will make you feel better and that your twin flame will “pay” for what they did.
Really it’s you who’s going to pay, how? Because you haven’t seen the lesson in this situation and what it was trying to teach you about yourself. So how do you resolve this?