Many will say that people who act how twin flames do have no self respect, while I do believe that it is not the case, I still felt this necessary to look at, it will be helpful to those of you who feel that they do too much for their twin flame or they are the one who always asks them to go places and they feel as though their twin flame does not care because they have to do all the hard work in regards to lessons also. So how do you find a happy medium, how do you lead but not sacrifice your self respect in the process?
I found on my journey that I had to learn to respect myself before I could fully respect anyone else, in order for me to do this I had to actively decide that I was going to do certain things in order to show myself and the universe that I could focus on union while still having respect.
This is what I recommend:
Stop people pleasing, it is ok to say no you do not have to do everything you are asked to do just because you are afraid of causing rifts in friendships and or relationships.
This one I know some struggle with and that is having a negative view of yourself, so be mindful of how you think and talk about yourself to others. Do not put yourself down ever.
Do not stay in the one place for a long time, keep moving forward, working, becoming a better you, staying stagnant or procrastinating has never got anyone I know to union.
Just like people pleasing, do not try and fit into others ideals of how you should be. Be yourself!!
Many twin flames are in jobs that they do not like or it bores them, this is perhaps because you feel there is more out there for you, if that is the case, do not stay in a job that is not right for you. You may even wish to further your education.
It is very important to take care of your health, I will be discussing this in more detail in next week’s blog.
If you are dealing with an over controlling karmic relationship or just someone in your life who likes to control what you do, it is time to think about how to move on from this person or people.
This is something I come across everyday, the why do I have to do the work, the one who sits and waits for things to happen, well that in my opinion is just plain lazy, why wait when you can do so much to move forward, is this not the logical option to get you to union so you do not have to waste a minute with your twin flame.
This is my favorite one of all and that is to choose happiness.
Think back to your earliest memory, did you ever think or feel different to others around you, were you more sensitive or did you just plain feel like you were on a different life path to most people that you knew? I did, as I got older this became more apparent. I started to have an interest in the opposite sex but no matter who I met or dated they just did not seem right for me. My mother used to joke that the man I was looking for had not been invented yet, I used to tell her that he has been I just have not found him yet. I think many of us have felt this way, then you began thinking that you needed to be the best you could be in order to find your one! You knew you had a purpose to be here and even if you didn’t you knew that there were reasons to work on yourself so that things in your world improved.
Then your twin flame shows up and you finally have that feeling that you are home, you have finally found the one for you! . Whether you realize this or not, when both of you showed up in each other’s lives that was the reason. It was so that both of you strived towards being your best version of you in that moment. It is an ever continuing process of growth, change and transformation. So you go through many different what others like to refer to as phases, I do not really look at things that way, you will have the blame game, separation, coming together again, separation if all lessons are not learnt, testing then if all is learnt, union! Where are you at? Do not know, please email me to find out more!
Now do not be fooled into thinking that once you are in union, it is going to be great, many do this and then they discover the hard way that it is not. It is an ever changing relationship, ever growing and you will of course come across stumbling blocks but you will have more clarity on how to deal with this once in union. I know for sure I have had some doozies this past year!
So listed here below are some things for you to consider, as most of you are currently in separation.
What lessons must I learn?
Do I love myself?
Do I love my twin flame without condition?
Do I trust in my twin flame?
Consider these this next week and try to figure out where you are at on your road to reunion.
Moon Phase Moments - For October 27th, 2017
On this date, the moon will be in it’s 1st quarter phase (waxing) and is in the sign of Aquarius. During a 1st quarter moon, as it is waxing, this is a positive, moving forward time. Though like the third quarter phase it brings about a feeling of impending crisis, but it is a decision point to take action on something or to move onto a different path to get there. A “crossroads” if you will, the “what if I do this or what if I don’t do this” is the decision. I am sure you can all have a thought on something before you that may feel like you’re currently being pushed to make a choice. No matter how small an action you may see the opportunity to do so.
As this phase happens to be in the sign of Aquarius - that means independence or detachment. Detachment isn’t negative that isn’t what this means. Simply put the universe is asking you to work on things but not to worry or overthink about what the outcome would be.
As far as independence, look at how you can be more helpful to yourself instead of thinking you have to constantly get help from others from things you know you can actually handle yourself if you think about it and maybe make the choices to educate yourself on what to do in that situation. Do not forget to work on your self respect.
With the Moon in Aquarius this is about seeking new opportunities and finding ways to be different from others instead of constantly following the flock. In other words - BE AN INDIVIDUAL wherever possible. Following the flock will not truthfully get you to union as each relationship is totally different, you need someone who can tailor a twin flame package to your actual relationship, not just what everyone else is doing.
This week it is time to set your plan for November into action, what do you want to achieve?
“A year from now you may wish you had started today.” ― Karen Lamb
See below video for this week's just released Twin Flame Tip!!