Fanning The Flames Volume 7.8

Something to Ponder

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Hi All,


Stormy Times

This week, the first ever serious storm hit Ireland, it caused a lot of devastation and 3 lives were lost, I know this might not seem like a lot to some but Ireland is a small country with a pretty small population. I learnt the value of pulling together, that no matter what the Irish face we keep our sense of humour, I also saw the good in human nature and the bad. As Twin Flame leaders we are called upon to be there for other twin flames in times of need, I saw much of this and I have had great support from many of my Twin Flame friends however I did see something that really angered me, I do not get angry often, it also allowed me to see why some are not in union.

Poor Me or Me, Me, Me

The poor me act, the we are worse off then you, or don’t forget about so and so, now I know you have no power but when will I unite, why are you ignoring me, I need you, you should be here right now, so the trend of me, me, me is still very much so strong in the Twin Flame community.

What is selfish?? You are that is who, if this is how you were thinking, if these are words you used, you are selfish. To be selfish is lacking consideration for others; concerned chiefly with one's own personal profit or pleasure. Then there is the Twin Flames who are needy, having to message 10 times a day, who need your attention right now. Does either of these sound like you?? If so you are on a path of destruction and you will not have an easy time getting to union. While I am here to help you, I do not take the place of your Twin Flame and you are going about things all the one way. Being a Twin Flame you have to learn to be both independent and selfless.

How to

A needy person will crave their partner just like a person a drug addict craves drugs. So you have to learn how not to be that way, almost wean yourself away from the person you have created your co-dependency with.

Needy people have no idea how to deal with any concerns in a non-needy, secure, way. They will feel that their given issue is the most important thing and they will not stop until they get someone to validate their feelings and tell them how to deal with the problem.  

The first step in overcoming acting this way is to go to someone like me who can provide you with guidance, until you can learn a new way of acting and or responding to what has happened. Someone else is needed who can provide a lot of guidance, especially at first, until a new way of responding can be learned. There are two ways in which to do this, the hard or the easy way, just like quitting any other bad habit.

Here are some of the thing I will work on you with:

• Work through any trust issues you may have.
• I will show you how to give your twin flame the space you both need.
• Show you how to focus on yourself in a positive way.
• Help you manage anxiety.
• Help you to figure out other interests in life.
• Help you to build confidence in yourself.

This is all part of you becoming the best version of yourself. A must if you wish to get to that holy grail of union. I am pretty sure you want to do this the easy way and learn how not to be that way.

However working with someone who is selfish is a whole other ball game because even having a selfish person to admit that they are that way is an impossible task so signing up for tough love sessions are the only way to go!

Denial

How many of you are living in denial of who the person your twin flame truly is? Do you have him/her up on a pedestal? Thinking that they can do no wrong or knowing they do wrong but not accepting it? Does this sound like you? Yes!! If so you need to have a long hard look at who you are, who your twin flame is and begin the long road to seeing your twin flame for who they really are and accepting that they have flaw and that there are not this perfect version that you have built them up on your head to be. Your twin flame is most likely selfish, will not face up to issues, will contact you when it suits them and expect you to be there for them at the drop of a hat, this is where respecting yourself comes in, how do you do it without them moving further away from you? What is the correct way to lead your twin flame to respect you? This is only a small portion of what you will be shown if you go ahead and become a subscriber of my newest venture. Click here to find out more

What is Telepathy for Twin Flames?

Many times when we connect with our twin flame here on earth - if they are incarnated that is, we don’t understand or comprehend the energetics of it and when you are dealing with this journey only from a limited understanding, which is ok, you don’t need to understand it all, it can be difficult when things happen, that you don’t know why they are happening.

You may often hear on groups or in blogs by twin flames about telepathy, most of the time how they have it with their twin and it’s good because they aren’t in contact here in the physical, which is difficult enough but to not have that other connection with them.. You feel as if you’re totally lost yet you know the two of you are twin flames but why is the telepathy missing.  

A Lesson in Time Saves Nine!

Think you don’t have telepathy with your twin flame? Well perhaps you don’t have “day to day” conversations. But what about those moments you swear you hear them say I love you in your ear. Or you start thinking of them and your heart begins to pound hard and you KNOW they’re thinking of you too.  Or you were thinking of talking to them and they text you or call you or email you.  Guess what? That is a form of telepathy. Telepathy is thought energy.  What about those nights you dream of things and you’ve never dreamed of them before you met your twin flame, what about those nights you hear music in your head, songs you’ve not heard before but they seem so familiar or songs you’ve not listened to in weeks/months/years that stick in your head for what seems like forever and you know the lyrics and you feel pulled to go look up the words.. Guess what ??! That is telepathy, your twin is trying to send you messages from their higher self. It’s up to you to figure out what it means to you and your connection with them.

Telepathy isn’t a mental, conscious, logical 3D mind thing, it is a 5D, higher self thing between you. So I’m suggesting you stay aware of things like this that happen and if you experience something you aren’t sure is telepathy, I’d love for you to comment here or send me a message, I’ll help you. No cost to you for this.

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That Mystical Moon

October 19th is the New Moon, when there is a New Moon, this means energetically you’re getting a double-shot of the astrological sign of that month, in this case Libra. The way I’d like to look at it is this. When it comes to the New Moon in Libra, you’re going to be looking at having to learn about balancing clear decision making with a possibility for making no decisions whatsoever.  You’ll be wanting to use your emotions to actually fuel you to push forward to achieving your goals or to help you create the dreams to guide you towards the things that your soul wishes for.

It’s all about Libra

Libra is an Air Sign - LIbra is about your social and intellectual abilities, communication with others, thinking and how you interact with others. But try not to have your head in the clouds too much or get too mentally taxed trying to figure this out, because the emotional side of Libra, which because this sign is ruled by the planet Venus, you’ll be dealing with using your heart as well. To find the balance of being truthful with heartfelt feelings but also to learn to give and take with those who matter to you. It is also a Cardinal sign so while striving to be independent and driving with logic to achieve what you desire you can also be impatient.  So when we look at the energy of Libra as the sun sign we are looking to create balance and harmony in our lives in every area we can while making sure justice is served, in other words everyone gets what they need and no one is left out or feeling less than including yourself.  With the moon in the sign of Libra also this sign focuses on partnerships. This can apply to love relationships, work relationships, families and making sure it all works and fits together in harmony and all falls into place the way it is needing to be.

The thing is with the moon in Libra there can be a tendency to come across as shallow, or even needy or that we really aren’t coming into any relationship from the heart and this can mean lack of communicating what you really feel when that is what you are striving for. You are likely to find this energy affect you if you are a people pleaser which is not a good thing to be, for if you try to make everyone happy and neglect yourself you will find yourself lacking in many areas of your personal interactions with others.  Not saying here to put yourself first but what I’m saying is that make sure you are honest with yourself first before you expressing things to others about how you feel about having them in your life.  

Who Are You?

This energy is going to affect you  for the next couple weeks and your other half, It’s pretty obvious to me that you need to understand your heart not your mind related to you and the connection you have with your twin flame.You can’t force this. The love from them can only come if you truly love who you are unconditionally (faults and imperfections included)  and understand who you are.  

My question is do you know what that means?  Can you accept yourself as you are? Do you feel you need to be perfect to have your own self love and appreciate who you are? If you feel so that is false love, and your twin flame will mirror that to you in ways you will not expect.

Now I would like you to think of who you are in life, where are you headed? So many get stuck in a rut and have no ambition. Where did those great ideas you had go? Did you lose them? No you just forgot that you are the true master of your own destiny, this week, this is a very strong trend and some of you are going to be pulled kicking and screaming out of the doldrums you created. You may also be in for a dose of tough love at the universe’s hands. This can be utilized to get yourself back on track. There is no more time for procrastinating, grab the proverbial bull by the horns and make the most out of your life and twin flame journey!

Mum’s The Word

Also during this New Moon in phase because it is occurring in Libra, be careful who you share your twin flame journey with and who you go to for expressing to about what is or isn’t going on in your journey. Don’t get melancholy or upset, don’t get all sad and let that carry you into giving up or constantly seeking so much help that you really don’t get the clear guidance you need. In other words don’t go spouting off to anyone who will listen, including other twin flames.


Are You Blocking Your Union

Many times we don’t realize how much we are blocking our own progress to union by giving away our energy by telling everyone we know about the good we experience, and especially the bad we experience. It actually is like giving away your own power to union. If you truly must talk to someone about something please make sure it is with someone you trust and especially someone who can guide you not just lend an ear and a shoulder. When we tend to spout off to someone about the negative stuff going on it brings up stuff to that person about their own pain and that isn’t always a healing thing for either of you.   Writing in your journal about it is usually better and then destroying it and throwing away the paper or burning it and then going back to your journal to write something positive about you and your twin flame instead. Shifting the energy to the positive.  All it takes is to rid yourself of what is weighing you down and then turn it around by actually writing out what you’d like to happen as if it already has.  Not in future tense but as if you’re already living it.

Disconnected

I know that quite a few of you have been feeling disconnected from your twin flame of late, so many slip into self pity mode when this happens, this is possibly one of the worst things you could ever do, not only will you be unhappy but you will delay your union further. Keeping a positive mind is not easy that I do know but you must strive for this. You are the leader, this is your job on your road to union.

Self Worth

Lastly but by no means least, your self worth is crying out for attention, I am hoping that some of you have now realized where you have been going wrong in regards to this, if not let me refresh you on what you need to do!!

Steps to having more self worth

• First is to admit that you are good enough
• Learn how to have self respect and respect for others
• Trust yourself and the decisions you make
• Stop comparing yourself to others
• Get to know who you really are as a person
• Do something scary
• Know your strengths and weaknesses
• Know you are beautiful no matter what
• Help others to feel good about themselves
• Focus on the things you can change
• Do things you enjoy
• Exercise
• Celebrate the small things

Why not begin today with this mantra:

I am (enter name) I am beautiful, I will learn to know that I can be enough and today is the day I will start to believe this. I will be strong and begin to learn my self worth. I am (enter name)


“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” – Stacey Charter

Just in case you missed this week's Twin Flame Tip, here it is for you! 

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion.

“Look inside yourself, become the best version of you, reuniting comes from within.”~ Carol Mary  

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Take a chance, make a change, unite! ~ Carol Mary


Much Love


​Carol Mary xx

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