Last week, I discussed trust with you, did you try this week to work on this? If no, try your best to do something small each week, you will be so surprised how soon you will feel as though you are in a better position in your life.
Let’s look at unconditional love, this is something that we hear about often but what does it mean! Does it mean that you should love someone no matter how they treat you, some will tell you yes, I am going to show you another way to do it. Why should someone in your life get to do horrible things to you and have you just say oh, it is ok, because I love you and no matter what you do to me, I will still love you, that gives the person carte blanche to use you as their kicking post. That I do know is one of the hardest things for a Twin Flame to accept, the things their Twin Flame does to them, when they are not acting out of love for you!
So what do you do? How do you get to this state of unconditional love without feeling like you are being used or treated badly?
When the question what is unconditional love is asked, many of us know that unconditional love is without limitations. Falling in love is risky, we take great chances with our feelings and it may mean we can lay our feelings on the line and be hurt and rejected in return!!
It is said that unconditional love is when you expect nothing in return for giving your own love, you would lay down your life for this person. You have probably already experienced this in if your life with your parents, children, brothers and sisters!! When it comes to your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, love interest can you say this is true?
The Real Problem
The real problem with the importance of unconditional love is that it makes us have to face the fact that most of the time we are not unconditionally loving.
Firstly you have to love yourself in order to love another without condition!! I believe that this is of great importance when discussing unconditional love as you must be able to know, accept, and forgive your own imperfections in order to do the same for someone else.
So how about getting a better understanding of what unconditional love actually means, it means loving with a comprehension of the other person, what makes them tick, not trying to change who they are but being totally accepting of the person that they are!! It is a whole new way of thinking and being! It is being selfless. It is not something that you automatically know when it comes to a love partner. It is something that can be learnt and practiced.
You must choose to love unconditionally. Unconditional love is to act with love in in all conditions!
Let me go back to the beginning where I ask the question “does it say you have to be a doormat and love this person even when they do things you dislike or no matter how they make you feel?”
In answer to this I would have to say No because if you show great love and understanding towards this person and they love you in return this way, the mutual respect your strive to have for each other will be learnt by trial and error. It means comprising, being selfless and having that in return, having a real working partnership, listening to the others needs, accepting and forgiving! We will always do something to hurt the other but learning not to do it again is the key to unconditional love!
Communicating your feelings without judgement is also a great way to show that you can love your Twin Flame, in a way no other can. Listening in their time of need and telling them that you would love it if they could be there for you. Showing your love.
Having huge expectations from your Twin Flame, will never work out in your favor and while it may pain you to hear it, go ahead and lower them, so as you can love them for who they are and not the idea you have in your mind of them.
There are so many other elements to this and you will learn much of it as you go along but do not be afraid to ask for help with this, unconditional is not a given, that I know for sure.
"Unconditional Love is not the case of being blinded by love but rather the resolution that nothing is more important than love." - Talidari
Moving Onwards To This Week’s News
It has been an intense 2018 so far and it’s going to get very intense this week. Many energies are about and some special days to increase the vibrational pull between you and your twin flame. Ah the month of love!
Today February 11th - I WANT MY UNION DAY! Yes it is the 11th day of the month and we know I do special things on this day. But I’m calling this the I Want My Union Day! Meaning I want to help you get there, and help you claim it in 3D, that’s what we all want yes. We may not all get it but my mission is to get as many of you to union as I possibly can. Here is my insight on this day. I will have many different activities running for this today so if you are not a member of my group, you should add yourself today. Link is at the end of this blog.
February 14th Valentines Day
Aside from the commercialism that comes with this day, I wanted to celebrate it with all of you twin flames! Personally, I think everyday should be one of love, not just a single day to devote to it. I mean love can be shown in so many ways. This is what I’d like you to put some thought into for today. What ways can you show love and BE love.
Not just to your twin flame - we all know that it is both a love of the unconditional things you can never explain, plus friendship kind of love and yes the romance too. I also think that for those of you leader twin flames who are not with someone in a relationship (aside from your twin flame that is) I think you need to, as ALWAYS look for the love within yourself. Also do not be afraid to show yourself love.
In fact let’s make this a start for 2018, that starting now you will work at making the love about yourself. Do you know how to do that?
There are a number of things you can do but let’s start with the easy stuff and go from there and I’m sure you can think of other things, please feel free to comment below with ideas so others can be inspired.
Be sure to eat well - eat within your budget, cook more for yourself, don’t go out so much. It’s very nurturing to do this for yourself and the food has a higher vibration when you put you own loving care in to it and make good choices.
Take time to get sleep - yes naps count!
Clean water, less caffeine. I didn’t say cut it out, just make better choices your body will thank you! So will your soul - with both better food and cleaner beverages
Make time to be creative - cook, draw, write, paint, play music, learn a language, start a new hobby. Even be creative with your thoughts daily - how you feel is based on how you think! Thinking and emotions go hand in hand. What you FEEL comes from what you THINK therefore creating your reality, maybe not instantaneously but .. well let’s say this is the law of attraction in action!
Make time for quiet. Relax in quiet (no music or electronics, no computer.. ) Just be. You don’t have to meditate but you can. Make time just to let go of the things building up in you - stress, stop the doing for others and neglecting yourself.
Now when it comes to your twin flame and your connection with them. How can you think of new ways to express how you feel. I don’t just mean in words. I mean actions or in other ways. I can help you as far as communicating with their higher self - if you’re not communicating in 3D this is a good way to let them know how you love them, not just the way or the why.
If you are in communication (or even in union or close to it) find new ways to demonstrate it. No I don’t mean sappy love sopped poetry - that isn’t for everyone.
What about doing something for them that they wouldn’t expect or ????
The New Moon on February 15th brings in some interesting and well a bit of a contradiction in energies. We all know we’re still riding on the energy high of these full moons in February plus the lunar eclipse of the 31st SUPERMOON, we have a solar eclipse, it will be seen in some parts of the southern hemisphere but its energy felt by us all regardless of what part of the planet we’re on.
What is highlighted is communication but with a fresh and perhaps unusual way to go about it, that is untypical for you when it comes to communicating not only with your twin flame but with others in general. This being said the energy carries with it a sense of detachment, meaning intense relationships can actually be a little if not a lot scary for you right now. If you understand that clingy, needy and forceful are not the way to be especially with your twin flame right now - no codependency issues please and no demands that things happen as to how you want them to - this is not the correct approach in any relationship to be honest, twin flame or otherwise. All it does is put pressure and you end up playing the martyr/victim and the whole cycle is just bound to repeat itself sometime again in the near future.
What I see is that it is more to be courteous, kind,caring and if anything, above all else friendly to all involved. As always the new moon energy is full of possibilities so nurture the right things not the wrong ones. Fight the urge to be bossy and come into your interaction with others using unconditional love and understanding and compassion, not from neediness or such like that.
You may also find it hard to get close to people because you wish to show your independence and that is another energy this new moon cycle brings. It is perfectly fine to be an individual but not so much that you push others away for being TOO independent. This may be a good time to focus more on nurturing the love within you for yourself than seeking outside yourself to be fulfilled and let go of that need that others have to love you first before you can love yourself. It’s actually the other way around. Love you first, as you are for who you are and they will be more drawn to that then you constantly seeking their approval or seeking their love thinking it’s missing from you .. when it is not. It has always been within you.
With this new moon you may also wish to try new things and have a little adventure in your life which is always a good thing!
Look out for this week's second blog which is where I relook at the searching phase two years on, other than that I hope you all have a wonderful week, filled with love and learning.