Fanning the Flames ~ Vol 1.2.2021

Twin Flame Union Breakers

​Hi All, 

I just realized today that the last time I wrote a blog was July 2020, oh how time goes by so quickly in this ever changing world we live in. I think we have all been learning how to live in this new more confused world. 

I have gone back and forth on whether I should write this blog or not because I know that for some this will not be a popular topic however I do feel that it needs to be said and not only to protect you but to help you to see the light on your Twin Flame or life’s journey. 

I see that the word Twin Flame is being thrown around in the media and amongst celebs these days. Does this take away from what Twin Flames are truly about? Are they just two words now without the beautiful meaning that was behind them before it became the latest trend? Or is it much better because now it is not such a taboo subject?

I also have been wondering in general if our inherent need to find the love of our lives and constantly seeking out the perfect life that leads us to the conclusion that we must find our Twin Flame or that you have to be with them no matter what and at all cost?

I am also sure that your longing to be with your Twin Flame has become more pronounced over the past year. Fear is most likely playing a role in that. The fear that you will never see them again combined with the what if’s, and’s and but's.

So bearing all of that in mind I am going to let you in on what others may not but the reasons why some Twin Flames are just not meant to unite in this lifetime and no matter what you do it 
will not happen. 

Mental Health

With mental health issues becoming something that we are all dealing with more, stay at home orders, filling your time up where you once went out and hung out with your friends. Being alone or not having any of your usual outlets for your emotions becoming commonplace. I ask the question: are you taking care of your mental health?

You mental health and state of mind really are pivotal on this journey, when it comes to being so affected by what is going on in your life that you are contemplating ending your life or doing something that could land you in big trouble, it is time to stop. Union is not a priority anymore, you are! 

There is not one person in this lifetime worth you taking your life over. If this becomes an issue for you, it is time to seek counselling and work through these issues you are feeling before it is too late. Be an active participant in your own life and mental health. 

Narcissists and the Twin Flame Journey

Another common belief out there is that the sleeper can be a narcissist however I have found that it can in fact be the person who believes they are the leader Twin Flame who really is the narcissist. This comes from their sense of entitlement that union is theirs no matter what they do or how they treat their Twin Flame and others in life. 

It is all a matter of control and when you are on a true Twin Flame journey almost everything except your inner healing is out of your control. 

There sometimes is an unhealthy need for attention and admiration from the other person, this can indicate that there are narcissist tendencies. 

The person may not be able to handle any criticism at all therefore not working on the things that they need to because they will not accept that they are doing anything wrong in the first place. 

They quite simply disregard the feelings of the sleeper and continue to keep doing what they have always done, even if they are given advice to the contrary, they do not stop. Then they blame others for the mistakes they make. 

However  even though the cases of this are few and far between, it is not outside of the realms of belief on this journey. 

In this case union will not happen unless the leader Twin Flame works through these issues.

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​Stalking 

Twin Flames do not stalk. They just do not even though often times they are perceived as stalkers. Time to educate yourself;

The difference between being a stalker and a Twin Flame is huge. 

Stalking is following the person around. Showing up to their home, place of work or even a store they commonly go to, Twin Flames do not do this in fact most of my clients are very surprised when they do come into contact with their Twin Flame. 

Stalking is sending gifts, cards, flowers or money to the victim in an unsolicited manner, Twin Flames do not do this either. In fact many of them are too fearful of upsetting the other by doing something like this. 

Stalking is tracking their online activity to the extreme. Many of the Twin Flames I know have decided not to even look at their Twin Flames social media or online activity for they do not live in that needy space and if they have been they quickly realize that it serves no purpose.  

Stalking is harassing another person’s friends and family. This is not cool and not something that I believe Twin Flames partake in. 

Stalking is physically or sexually assaulting the victim or the victims friends and family. Twin Flames are peaceful people and do not act this way at all. In fact most are empaths and very sensitive to the feelings of others. 

Stalking is stealing, vandalizing or damaging the victim or the victims family and friend’s property. I have never come across a Twin Flame who does this.

I do know that there are rare cases where a Twin Flame will have a restraining or no contact order put on them through the courts.  The never happening for a Twin Flame is if they have a restraining order put on them. Your journey ends there because chances are you have done something that is way above and beyond for the other person. There is nothing that can be done to change those circumstances. 

If you have or are doing any of the above examples of stalking, you do need to seek help for your actions. This is an unhealthy obsession. 

The no coming back from:

• Being physically abusive towards your Twin Flame or them towards you. You are not ready for union in this lifetime. 
• Restraining or no contact order.
• It becomes too much for your mental health. 
• You feel obsessed and do things that are way outside legal and logical boundaries.  Stalking being an example.
• When you are constantly blaming others for the reasons you are not in union.
• When your safety is at risk. 

Healthy Balance 

The world must not and should not revolve around your Twin Flame. In fact this journey is a healing one, one where you learn about yourself and work on your inner healing. Finding your space in the universe where you are happy in your own skin. 

Discovering whether it is a romantic connection or a friendship should be established early. It is very important to recognize that it is a soul connection, a healing connection and one that will test you to your limits. 

I believe it is important to remember that the sleepers actions are not coming from the same place as you. They are not awakened to the journey like you are and it is foolish to think things are any other way until they indicate to you that things have changed.

A word to the wise: be careful who you align yourself with on this journey as the energies of others can really bring negative into your life. Ensuring that you keep positive in your life and in each day is pivotal. That will help you to create a healthy balance in your life. 

Self Worth 

Your level of self worth can really affect where you are on the Twin Flame journey and I have come to the conclusion that you need to work on this and come to a place of peace with who you are flaws and all. 

I have just this week created a new video for you to have a watch of and I do feel that it will help you with your self worth. This is video 3 in the series for you:

www.youtube.com/watch?v=uEV01hjLgGo&list=PLog9ebJmHt47f8jKyL75yYebmjAcoTkVV&index=1

Final Thoughts 

If you are interested in becoming a successful leader Twin Flame and helping yourself to change your life. Maybe it is time to invest in yourself and take one of the classes that I have on offer for Twin Flames. If you would like to see some sample exercises in this class go ahead and send me an email @ [email protected]

Always remember there are no experts on your life’s journey and with your Twin Flame. I too am learning with you and everyday brings something new. Something for sure to note however is Reuniting Comes From Within. 

Classes by Carol Mary

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This is a good year for uniting twin flames and I am very honored to aid you on your road to reunion. 
 
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