Self Worth

“In sociology and psychology, self-esteem reflects a person's overall subjective emotional evaluation of his or her own worth. It is a judgment of oneself as well as an attitude toward the self.”  Wikipedia

“No one would even miss me”
“I will never be enough”
“I do not look good”
“I am too fat”
“I am too skinny”
“No one pays any attention to me”
“I hate myself”
“He/She is a better person than I”

How many times have you been guilty of saying the above in reference to yourself??

Today's world is very concerned with how much they are worth. In truth we live in a very shallow world, where we judge people’s worth by how much money one has, what kind of car one drives, how big a house one lives in, by the clothes one wears and more importantly by how we look. The color of our skin and our sexual orientation are also being judged.

You would think that in this day and age we would have overcome much of this and take each person as they are but no, if we do not judge ourselves someone else will.

Humans on a whole can be very judgemental. We all gossip and talk about what someone has done.

Why do we do this?

Simply to answer this because we can and we do so to make ourselves feel better about who we are and to deflect from our own failings.

I have asked the question for many years who decides what looks goods, how much money a person needs to have, who is a lesser person than the other.  Society does.  Society can be evil and cruel. Society can be very hurtful.

Why do you judge yourself so harshly?

Each one of us are individuals. Unique in our looks but yet are equal. Everyday when we read newspapers, watch tv or surf the net we are shown what beauty is meant to be but I am begging to differ with this. I believe we are all beautiful.

My personal belief is that we are all born equal.  If you think about it, does a young child look at another and say you do not look how you are meant to? The answer is no, because a young child has not yet learnt what is meant look good and what is not. A young child will just play with the other and not judge. As a parent we form certain beliefs within our child.  

In adulthood it may be the result of having your trust broken, harsh words from a jealous person. There are many reasons why you feel this way but it is now time to change it.

So how does one change this?

It starts with you. Change how you see yourself. Change how you see others. Love yourself for who you are. Make positive changes in your life.  

We all have that inner critic, that little voice in our heads that tells us we are not good enough, This voice may come from things that happened in our childhood that were hurtful.  They may have come from our parents as they viewed themselves this way. Over time these negative feelings become a part of who we are.

It is now time to fight that inner critic and you can start today.  I have overcome many of these issues and I am here to tell you that yes it is a battle but you too can do this too and learn to believe in yourself.

Steps to having more self worth

• First is to admit that you are good enough
• Learn how to have self respect and respect for others
• Trust yourself and the decisions you make
• Stop comparing yourself to others
• Get to know who you really are as a person
• Do something scary
• Know your strengths and weaknesses
• Know you are beautiful no matter what
• Help others to feel good about themselves
• Focus on the things you can change
• Do things you enjoy
• Exercise
• Celebrate the small things

Why not begin today with this mantra:

I am (enter name) I am beautiful, I will learn to know that I can be enough and today is the day I will start to believe this. I will be strong and begin to learn my self worth. I am (enter name)


“Don’t rely on someone else for your happiness and self-worth. Only you can be responsible for that. If you can’t love and respect yourself – no one else will be able to make that happen. Accept who you are – completely; the good and the bad – and make changes as YOU see fit – not because you think someone else wants you to be different.” – Stacey Charter

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Thank you all for reading, I appreciate it..


© Carol Mary 2016

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