We have already learned that unconditional love is without limitations, but what does that actually mean? Does it say you have to be a doormat and love this person even when they do things that you dislike or no matter how they make you feel?
Falling in love is risky, we take great chances with our feelings and it may mean we can lay our feelings on the line and be hurt and rejected in return!!
Firstly you have to love yourself in order to love another without condition!! (We will discuss how to love yourself in my next blog) I believe that this is of great importance when discussing unconditional love as you must be able to know, accept, and forgive your own imperfections in order to do the same for someone else.
It is said that unconditional love is when you expect nothing in return for giving your own love, you would lay down your life for this person. You have probably already experienced this in if your life with your parents, children, brothers and sisters!! When it comes to your husband, wife, girlfriend, boyfriend, partner, love interest can you say this is true?
The real problem with the importance of unconditional love is that it makes us have to face the fact that most of the time we are not unconditionally loving.
So how about getting a better understanding of what unconditional love actually means, it means loving with a comprehension of the other person, what makes them tick, not trying to change who they are but being totally accepting of the person that they are!! It is a whole new way of thinking and being! It is being selfless. It is not something that you automatically know when it comes to a love partner. It is something that can be learnt and practiced.
You must choose to love unconditionally. Unconditional love is to act with love in in all conditions!
Let me go back to the beginning where I ask the question “does it say you have to be a doormat and love this person even when they do things you dislike or no matter how they make you feel?” In answer to this I would have to say No because if you show great love and understanding towards this person and they love you in return this way, the mutual respect your strive to have for each other will be learnt by trial and error. It means comprising, being selfless and having that in return, having a real working partnership, listening to the others needs, accepting and forgiving! We will always do something to hurt the other but learning not to do it again is the key to unconditional love!
"Unconditional Love is not the case of being blinded by love but rather the resolution that nothing is more important than love." - Talidari
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