Love by definition is “an intense feeling of deep affection.” This is correct but it has it limits, love cannot be seen, it can only be felt. Many people are of the belief that it is felt with the heart, but I believe it is more with the mind...otherwise how can we know when we are in love? We think about the person. You think with your mind!
Some love because of how a person looks, this is not love... it is shallow because you have not looked beyond appearance, that is lust. I like how they look therefore I want to have sex with him or her!! So I must be in love! Wrong!!
How do you really know when you have fallen in love, truly deeply??
If I were to say you are only in love with the idea of that person, you would argue with me that was not true as you like how they act, how they think, how they make you feel, what they do for you...all I hear is I, me...that is selfish...that is not love, that is your ego, that is you searching for completeness of yourself from another.
That love is conditional.
What does that mean?
In my daily life, I have many people come to me and say I have found the one, the other half of my soul. Upon questioning them on why they believe this, I find that while some have, there are conditions put on this love. Their Beloved has to act or dress in a certain way, has to do whatever you want. What is earned and how much they have in life is of high importance. Yes you may be attracted to him or her but it is not love...you judge who they are, and they eventually become someone you want them to be. Your usual first reaction to their actions is in anger! You want them to change and are constantly on their back about something. They are usually afraid of expressing their true self for fear of your disapproval, that is not love!!
So what is unconditional love?
Unconditional love is frequently used to describe love between family members, best friends and between others in highly committed relationships.
It is true love, without conditions and has no limitations. You fully accept the person, no matter what their failings are. You love them even when something is done that you would not normally approve of. It has no bounds and is unchanging, you cannot take these feelings away even if you want to, and it can at times go against everything you logically think of. It is simply there and unconditional.
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